(Closed) FI's little brother abused.. last resort. Please read.

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 34
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542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@sablemuse:  What a horrific situation! I hope that justice is done in the end. Keep strong.

 

Recently in the UK there was some undercover footage released of an elderly care home where a family were concerned about a mother with dementia who had bruises appearing and care home workers were saying they were self inflicted. The family didn’t believe them so they planted a secret camera. It uncovered some terrible abuse by the people being paid to care for their mother. They took it to the police and the press, the ‘carers’ were prosecuted and deported/sent to prison. There have been high level developments in the ways care homes are run and monitored and the issue of care home abuse has been brought to the forefront. Things will have to change. In your case, even if the individual responsible is not identified, the fact that your family have pursued for justice and are speaking up against this most unforgivable behaviour, only good things can come of it. Good luck! X

Post # 36
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75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Wow, this is horrendous. I lived in the Bronx for several years and FI’s family (in Yonkers) works for Montefiore – North Bronx and New Rochelle. I will ask them and my friends to spread the word and get some attention focused on this terrible event. Like previous posters have mentioned, maybe public attention will bring the truth to light and prevent another home from hiring these criminals.

I hope that justice will be served somehow. It’s sick that those responsible tried to make this into something that can just be swept under a rug and covered up. The emotional damage it must have caused to your Future Brother-In-Law and the family…my heart hurts for all of you. I will definitely keep you all in my thoughts.

Post # 37
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1680 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@sablemuse:  I’m so sorry someone could be so cruel 🙁 I posted the story to Everyone Matters on Facebook. They are a group that spreads stories to raise awareness for equality and positive treatment of everyone. I hope they will repost so it can reach more people. You’re in my thoughts and prayers!

Post # 38
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1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

This is just awful. I don’t know how abusers can live with themselves. How can they sleep at night? Or look in the mirror?

I’m so sorry your Future Brother-In-Law had to go through something like this. Thinking and praying for you and your family.

Post # 39
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5658 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@sablemuse:  Because Eddie can not speak for himself, we are told that a criminal case can not be pursued. 

I don’t know lawbut this seems like complete bullshit to me and I’d look into this further. There are millions of people in this world who can’t speak for themselves and that doesn’t prevent them from getting justice. This is just not ok

Post # 43
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388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m a child abuse investigator… how can they tell you that they can’t prosecute if someone can’t talk? How do you think we prosecute people who hurt babies? That’s absolutely ridiculous.

Post # 45
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388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@sablemuse:  if he’s a child, it should be reported to your state child welfare agency. It should also be reported to whomever issues their licenses/certifications (typically a state agency for disabled folks). Finally, if they accept Medicaid/federal funding, it should be reported to them as well (we call it AHCA here). It sounds like your state attorney won’t take a case that isn’t a straight open/shut. 

Post # 46
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68 posts
Worker bee

Praying now.

Ignore the ugly comments.  It seems as though assisted living was the best solution for everyone, as your Future Mother-In-Law is becoming older and having trouble taking care of him on her own, and the fact that your Future Mother-In-Law visted so often shows that she loves her son very, very much.  I remember when my grandmother had to put her mother in a nursing home-she cried for several days but she and my grandpa had a lot of trouble just keeping her safe-she had alzheimer’s and kept forgetting where she was, to lock doors, turn off the oven, etc.  Sometimes assisted living really is the best solution, and all these people with ugly comments have either never been in such a situation or feel guilty that they don’t have the love and courage your Future Mother-In-Law had to give her son what she thought would be best for him-and would have been, if not for the abuse.

Lots of love to you guys 🙂

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