(Closed) FI's name on invite, but not mine.

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

i would have your Fiance check with her before you jump to conclusions. she may not have done it intentionally.

Post # 5
25 posts
  • Wedding: February 2013

It is very rude. My Fiance would not go to a wedding that I was not invited to, and vice versa.

Post # 6
2233 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Maybe they’re having a very small wedding? They can’t afford more guests? I do agree with you that it’s rude though. 

Post # 7
206 posts
Helper bee

Its also possible she’s not allowing guests to bring non-married SOs due to space constraints. However, if you’re living together, she should have extended the invitation to both of you. Talk to your Fiance and if let him know if you’re uncomfortable with him going alone.

Post # 8
4522 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yeah, that sounds really rude. Maybe she just doesn’t know any better — not that that makes it ok. If I were your Fiance I’d probably politely decline the invitation (and give the reason, if asked!). 

Post # 10
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Yes, in addition to the fact that you are engaged, since Fiance would be travelling 3 hours to go to the wedding that is weird that she would not include you even if she was looking to cut people.   Maybe she reeeeeeally had to cut people and didn’t mean it to be offensive. 

Truthfully I’ve learned so much about weddings and especially wedding ettiquette from the Bee. She may not know just how rude others see that.  If I hadn’t joined the Bee I probably would’ve *unintentially* broken so many ettiquette rules….not trying to offend or hurt people’s feelings, just merely b/c I didn’t know.

Just chalk it up that if Fiance isn’t so sad about missing then wedding, then it’s probably not someone he was super close with anyway(?).

Post # 11
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It’s probably just space and budget reasons. So he goes alone and you have a night with girl friends, eh not such a big deal!

Post # 12
901 posts
Busy bee

Totally rude! I’ll never understand brides being so inconsiderate in the name of saving money!

Post # 13
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Crazy rude, it might be petty but my husband and I would no longer be friends with either of them if they were so rude to me.

Post # 14
658 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It is rude. If a couple is living together, both get invited.


Post # 15
3303 posts
Sugar bee

My fiance’s sister did this to me… Just ignore their bad behavior.

Post # 16
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Rude.  I am in the crowd of if it was not a mistake then my Fiance wouldn’t go.

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