Post # 1
My Fiance used to hang out with a girl from college, we’ll call her C, and she was recently at our mutual friend’s wedding, we’ll call her L, where I met C for the first time.
I was introduced to C by L at L’s wedding rehersal dinner and we talked for a while because L and C used to hang out with my Fiance in college.
Anyways, fast forward to now. Fiance recieves an evelope with his name on it. I open it, because I open all the mail, and turns out it’s an invite to C’s wedding. However, no where on the invitation is a mention of a guest or my name whatsoever. And C knows my name because we’re on FB and our names are the same.
C even got our address and stuff from L.
I thought this was very rude because all etiquette rules say that she only meant to invite Fiance. Why the hell would you invite someone and not their fiance? Especailly when we live together, you’ve met me, and you know my first and last name!
Am I over reacting? Or is this extremely rude?
Post # 3
i would have your Fiance check with her before you jump to conclusions. she may not have done it intentionally.
Post # 4
The RSVP option is online and it only has 1 spot with his name. Not his name and plus 1 or his name plus guest.
Post # 5
It is very rude. My Fiance would not go to a wedding that I was not invited to, and vice versa.
Post # 6
Maybe they’re having a very small wedding? They can’t afford more guests? I do agree with you that it’s rude though.
Post # 7
Its also possible she’s not allowing guests to bring non-married SOs due to space constraints. However, if you’re living together, she should have extended the invitation to both of you. Talk to your Fiance and if let him know if you’re uncomfortable with him going alone.
Post # 8
Yeah, that sounds really rude. Maybe she just doesn’t know any better — not that that makes it ok. If I were your Fiance I’d probably politely decline the invitation (and give the reason, if asked!).
Post # 9
Well I doubt they are doing the non married couple thing. Another couple who are mutal friends got invitations and they’re not engaged or married.
C knows we’re engaged, she told us congrats. I just feel like it was rude to not put anything about me on the invitation.
My Fiance told me that he wasn’t going since the wedding is 3 hours away and I’m apparently not invited.
*Edit: I already replied not coming for him, which he told me to do. I just needed to rant.
Post # 10
Yes, in addition to the fact that you are engaged, since Fiance would be travelling 3 hours to go to the wedding that is weird that she would not include you even if she was looking to cut people. Maybe she reeeeeeally had to cut people and didn’t mean it to be offensive.
Truthfully I’ve learned so much about weddings and especially wedding ettiquette from the Bee. She may not know just how rude others see that. If I hadn’t joined the Bee I probably would’ve *unintentially* broken so many ettiquette rules….not trying to offend or hurt people’s feelings, just merely b/c I didn’t know.
Just chalk it up that if Fiance isn’t so sad about missing then wedding, then it’s probably not someone he was super close with anyway(?).
Post # 11
It’s probably just space and budget reasons. So he goes alone and you have a night with girl friends, eh not such a big deal!
Post # 12
Totally rude! I’ll never understand brides being so inconsiderate in the name of saving money!
Post # 13
Crazy rude, it might be petty but my husband and I would no longer be friends with either of them if they were so rude to me.
Post # 14
It is rude. If a couple is living together, both get invited.
Post # 15
My fiance’s sister did this to me… Just ignore their bad behavior.
Post # 16
Rude. I am in the crowd of if it was not a mistake then my Fiance wouldn’t go.