(Closed) FI's parents didn't reserve hotel and now have nowhere to stay!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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cmm067:  You could move the couches into the upper level living room, or take a blow up bed.

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Honestly, if you didn’t have your fiance’s feelings to consider, I would say screw it and let them figure it out. Who doesn’t make sure they have a room booked for their son’s wedding? How many days do your sister and her bf have their room reserved? If it’s only a couple days, I agree that it’s not really appropriate to ask them to let someone else sleep a few feet away. I definitely wouldn’t want my sister’s in-laws hanging out in my room!

Really, it is a nice gesture to try and figure something out for them but they should have booked their room. They can’t expect someone else to figure stuff out for them and I don’t understand why they’d wait until the last minute anyway.

Post # 18
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

This is what we call natural consequences. When people have been warned repeatedly about a deadline and choose to ignore it, they miss out on things.

The bigger question is not the inconvenience they might experience due to their irresponsibility, but instead whether they will not attend the wedding. That would be absolutely unacceptable in my family, but you know his parents better than we do. Will they just grumble about it and make the trip, or will they refuse to attend? If it is the latter, I would contact the hotel and have them first on the list in case of cancellations – not to help them out, but to help your Fiance.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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julies1949:  You could move the couches into the upper level living room, or take a blow up bed

HAHA seriously? No way would I spend my wedding night trying to move furniture around. That’s way too much effort for two people that can’t bother to make a reservation on time.

Post # 21
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Are there any Air BNB options or VRBO places nearby? Perhaps call the venue and see if they can be put on the waitlist in the mean time/book the room yourself if you have to. 

It must be so frustrating for you! Like others, it’s tempting to say “let them figure it out,” but that only hurts your Fiance. :/

Post # 23
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Sugar bee

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cmm067:  Airbnb. obviously all the hotels are booked as you said. So you need to look into less commercial options and check out Airbnb, vrbo, etc. and then GO CALL HIS PARENTS. You need to talk to them to sort out what to do. 

Honeslty, you probably just should have saved the bottom half of the house for them, knowing hat they were flaky and that you didn’t get a firm response one way or another. But too late now, gotta move on to the next plan. 

Post # 24
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I don’t really think that you should have to ask your family to try to fit them into the condo. Sounds like you already gave them the option to stay there and they declined.

I don’t think you should have to bend over backward for someone who can’t even get their s*** together to make sure they have accomodations for their son’s wedding. No way would I move furniture up and down a flight of stairs to make e room for them nor would I expect them to share a room with people they’ve never met. From the sound of them, I wonder if they would even offer to pay a portion of the rental bill for all of the inconvenience it’s causing everyone else.

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Is there anywhere available nearby for camping? Sounds like it is a more remote location, so maybe so? They can pop a tent, blow up an air mattress, and maybe offer the condo for shower/getting ready. Not ideal, but hey its their fault.

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

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cmm067:  wow that is surprising! that even seemed like a reach for me to imagine someone doing, and that’s not available. Well, if it isn’t too hot of an area, car seats lay back.

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Do you think they’re upset and worried about where to stay? It’s their problem not yours. Maybe they have other plans. tell them your sorry they’ve not got accommodation and if they need help to let you know.

otherwise leave them to it. 

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