(Closed) FI’s parents want to get us a new car…

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well… I think in general it’s rude to question a gift…

but, say DH’s less than reliable car breaks down and is not fixable.  Two possibilities.  Your shared money will have to go toward buying a new car later.  Or, you’d have to drive him around in yours. 

I think both benefit you, if not a little bit indirectly.

But, I get feeling a little slighted.  Just before Christmas, I was jokingly complaining about my husband putting all his itunes purchases on my credit card to his parents.  So for Christmas, they got my husband a ton of stuff and they got me an itunes gift card saying “now you don’t have to worry about him putting them on your credit card anymore!”  Ummm…. thanks?

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

Honestly, if his car is old and unreliable, then you need a new car more than a honeymoon…. Im not trying to be rude, really. Darling Husband and I didnt take a honeymoon because we wanted to save the money, we just spent a few nights in a really nice hotel.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Why don’t you put some money with the $7-8k for a better car? It IS a gift for both of you in that it saves both of you money down the line (you wouldn’t need to cough up half of that $8k later on). I think that sounds like the best deal to me.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

@kt23525: It bothered me for a bit that we werent going to take one too. Honestly, the hotel was awesome too. We booked a jacuzzi suite in our favorite part of town and just relaxed for a few days. It was really, really awesome.

You never know what’ll happen, after our mini-moon we found out that were moving to England so…. lol. London was DHs first choice of honeymoon anyway, lol.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I can understand why you would feel a little slighted, but I don’t think you can question that generous of a gift.  I also understand how you feel about not taking a honeymoon.  Ours will be delayed 6 months because of finances and I would have loved to have a getaway.  On the bright side, it has really given us something to look forward to all winter.    I think you should accept the gift graciously.  Maybe Fiance can take your car and you can get the newer one:)

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@kt23525: what if you sell your FI’s car (the one that is being replaced) and use that money for the honeymoon or at least a nice weekend away? 

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I get why you feel slighted. I mean technically you aren’t “getting” anything, but it is “saving” you both money down the line. If he gets a newer car and doesn’t have to pay for it, that’s great. Also, why not have him sell his car (I know you won’t get much for it, but you’ll get something) and use THAT money towards your honeymoon?

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think this is a great wedding gift for BOTH of you. Even though only Fiance will be driving the car, if they hadn’t bought him the new car he would eventually have to buy a new car out of your JOINT money which would affect BOTH of you. So a gift to Fiance is still a gift to you too.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Agree with the ladies above me, and also I’m not sure where you’re at, but why not do a road-trip minimoon to somewhere you’ve wanted to visit? If you plan it well, you can still stay at nice hotels and do fun activities.

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