(Closed) FI's sister (small vent and question)

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Give her a reading, but I would in no way feel obligated to make her a bridesmaid.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Giving her a part in the cermony is an excellent idea! You could also suggest that she stand with him as a groomsmaid. I would site the distance and that brides get emotional during planning abd need their best friends to suppourt them- she might even be uncomfortable or feel like a third wheel. also u can say its a little insenstive of him to ask her with her recent breakup. good luck!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

“Well, I want So and so, for my bridesmaids. I’m not sure I can fit your sister in. We can have her do a reading  or something instead?”

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Definitely have her do something else- I would.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

The bridesmaid issue is not a decision you need to make now.  Wait and see – maybe you will become closer over time.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

She could stand on FI’s side- I think that’s more appropriate anyway, since that’s the important relationship, not yours and hers. If the guys are in black, she could wear a black dress.

Future Sister-In-Law was jealous, and acted inappropriately- a brother shouldn’t feel that he needs to run a proposal by his sister! I now have two SILs- my brother’s wife and DH’s sister. Neither were in my wedding party-we had nosegays for both to recognize that they were special members of the families.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Having her do a reading sounds like a great idea.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If my Fiance asked me to include his sisters as BMs I would tell him no way. Not because I don’t get along with them, but because if I had them in my Bridal Party I wouldn’t be able to include my 2 closest friends. I don’t want a large Bridal Party and neither does Fiance, he doesn’t have many friends he would want to stand up with him, and we want equal or atleast close to sides, so we agreed on 3. Thankfully Fiance would never ask me to include his sisters. 

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Stand your ground.  If you dont want her in your bridal party, espeicially if you two are not close, dont.  I’d tell Fiance, you and her may be becoming family, but that dosent mean mean its all rainbows and roses and you’ll be new best friends.   I feel like it would be more awkward to  have her around anyways. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

No don’t make her a BM! If you don’t have that kind of relationship then it’s totally understandable why she would not be in the wedding party. Don’t feel obligated. This is your special time; don’t let her bad ‘tude ruin your time!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Fiance asked if i wanted his sister in my wedding. Ummm no she hasn’t exactly been welcoming to me, i like her, but i always feel on guard around her.  She will be walking down the aisle with her newborn as they will be a flower girl/ring bearer with all our other neices and nephews. We might have her do a reading too but we’ll see.

Have whoever you want in your bridal party.  They will get over it.  

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