- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
I’m a regular poster, but made this name because I don’t want to be identified 🙂
Since Fiance and I started dating, a former fling has been harrassing him/us. I won’t call her a stalker ex because they were never a couple. They were F*** buddies, but not in her mind!
He stopped seeing her before he met me when she started acting like a psycho. Once she got word that he had a Girlfriend (me) she went bats**t crazy. She would go to his apartment complex at 5 am and bang on his window screaming and crying (before we lived together).
One night (after we moved in together) we came home from a fun night out and I noticed the window was broken (not all the way through). We didn’t notice anything inside, so we went outside and found a brick under the window. We knew it was her.
I really wanted to call her and tell her to leave us alone and stay the F away, but FI’s sister who is a GOD SEND recommended that NEITHER of us contact her because that’s what she wanted. So FI’s sis called her and told her we saw her break the window and we were going to call the police. The dumb b**** pretty much implicated herself and said, “that’s impossible no one was around.” FI’s sister told her that we installed a secruity camera and advised her to stay away from us, unless she wanted to get in trouble with the law. That worked for a time and we didn’t hear from her.
A few months later, Fiance said she got his number somehow and had been calling him, he woulnd’t pick up, so then she downloaded an app to disguise her number as his cousin’s (that’s how they met) so he would pick up. She’d leave the craziest messages. Say that I don’t love him like she does, I will never love his children like she would. She’d be really hostile and cursing him out in one message and crying and apologizing and saying she loved him in the next. It was everywhere up and down on the emotional spectrum, just absolutely insane.
Fiance took it to the police and due to the nature of the messages – aggravated harrassment, we were able to obtain a restraining order. The cops tried to serve her at her parents’ where we thought she lived, but she moved out. So apparently she went down to the station crying and promising she wouldn’t bother us anymore.
We didn’t want to ruin anyone’s life so we dropped the order because she agreed to stay away AND the police told us if she continued and we reported it, she would still get arrested right away.
Nothing has happened for a long time but recently Fiance had some suspicious damage to his car. WE KNOW IT’S HER. But we can’t prove it. ugh. I just wish it would stop. She has been an annoying shadow lurking around for our entire reltationship.
Has anyone else gone through this? Did the psycho get bored/move on eventually? It’s been over a year and I actually think she has a boyfriend :/