Here is an update. After a month of waiting, I FINALLY got a response to my email to his Step Mom asking for her family’s addresses.
I was so relieved — and even called out to my Fiance that she came through — UNTIL… Dun dun dun…
I read the addresses: for 3 of the 5 people, she wrote out their names and then listed his dad’s and her home address. This was repeated 3 times for each name. (Mind, his Step Sister is one of them) 🙁 She mentioned that she was sorry it took so long to get back to me, but in that month, she pulled off 2? Lucky for White Pages, I already had those. 🙁
So my love did finally call her and ask her personally for them and we got the run around. He asked what he should do with the Thank You cards should they attend the wedding. I promise you, she said to send them to her and she will distribute them should we need to send them out.
The conclusion to this story is this…
We are going to send Save the Dates to all of them to 1 address, to her home and his Dad’s. With Rehearsal Dinner Invitation and RSVPs, we are going to send those, as well as the wedding invitation and RSVPs, to his Step Mom, with the names listed in each invite.
This way, if she does want to feel involved, we are making sure she is in absolute control over who is coming and who is not. It allows us to not worry if she delivered them or not and I know we can contact her directly for the RSVP counts. We need this because of the buses we have to rent and of course, the count at the wedding. Expensive!
We don’t even have their phone numbers. So if they didn’t RSVP, there would be no way to get in touch with them. We would have to go through her.
Phew. My fiance and I are relieved and it is all that matters. We are throwing this wedding ourselves and it is a big deal for us and means a lot to us to send out personal invites. 🙁 I wished I could have at least done it for his Step Sister. She is an adult woman with 2 kids. 🙁 I felt like his step mom is thinking of this as some birthday party, but in our eyes, it is a big deal and we wanted everyone to be personally invited. But that’s just us.
Anways, thought some of you may want to know what happened! No more drama!!! it is totally over! If it comes back, I’ll let ya know.