(Closed) FI’s Uncle is getting married the night of our Wedding shower.

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should I change my shower date even after printing invitations?
    Change it. : (13 votes)
    59 %
    Keep it, if some people don't come there is not you can do. : (9 votes)
    41 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @SoontobeMsL: Is it possible to change the date? I know you have already made the invitations and that sucks, but whoever is throwing the party could let people know the date has changed. Otherwise, he may just have to deal with not everyone coming.

    Post # 4
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    156 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Honestly, how many people on your shower guest list will possibly be invited to this wedding?  Being that it’s an older family member, I doubt he’ll be having a large wedding (though, I could be wrong).  Besides, all your friends and YOUR family will be there!  I don’t think there’s much to worry about. 

    Post # 5
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    5921 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Who is throwing your shower? I am surprised no one mentioned this to you before you ordered invitations. 

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Yeah, I would try to get an idea of how much guest overlap there might be, and go from there.  If it’s in the same town, it may not even be an issue.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I really think you should change your date.  It’s a little odd that you’re having your shower so far in advance of your wedding anyway, you usually have your shower a month before, 2 months at the very most.  Certainly not 5.  A wedding trumps a bridal shower and it’s not fair to the guests wanting to attend both your shower and your uncle’s wedding to essentially make them choose when you can easily change your date with little inconvenience.  Unless you’re attending weddings every weekend throughout the entire summer, I have a hard time believing a May date is the only possible date you can have your shower.  

    That’s my just my opinion, of course.  

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @SoontobeMsL: Honestly, if you can’t change the date or the time of your shower, I think you guys will just have to deal with not having some of his family members there. It sounds like you are annoyed that he is getting married for the third time, but he has a right to a celebration for it also. I am sorry you guys are in this pickle it sucks big time and I understand. Is this your bridal shower or a different kind of shower? At least most of the females from your side of the family can be there.

    Post # 11
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @SoontobeMsL: How many times he’s been engaged is irrelevant.

    But I do think it would be nice and considerate of you to move your date. It’s your shower, not your wedding. It doesn’t mean you have to go to his wedding, but if you have more than a few guests who want to do both, don’t be surprised if his wedding trumps your shower.

    Post # 13
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Then don’t change it. Why do you need a poll if you’ve already made up your mind?

    Post # 14
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Are you invited to his wedding?  If not than I wouldn’t change it.  I think it might be a little offensive to pass on his wedding to have a shower.  Put a sticker over the date and time with a new one on your invites.

    Post # 15
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    It depends how upset you’re going to be if certain guests don’t come to your shower because they’ll be at his wedding – and lets face it, weddings trump showers any day.  You wouldn’t miss a wedding to go to a shower so you have to expect that in return.  Are you going to the wedding? if you are then it doesn’t make sense to have it that night anyways, and if you’re not you have to understand that there will be family members that aren’t going to be at your shower.  So really – how upset would you be?

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