(Closed) “fitting the bill” – did you have a list?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I had a list. It was funny because I had formed it around some other guys I had liked, but then in walks Fiance into my life and blew me away. He just happens to fit the bill too. πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I never had a “type” of guy that I dated. For me it had more to do with his character, personality, morals, things like that.

But I also believe that you have to be physically attractive because that’s what first draws you to that person.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I never had a “list”, and I didn’t think I’d get married until I”m in my 30’s.  But at 23, I met my now-husband and instantly knew that he was the one I was gonna marry.  And I wasn’t ready to get married then, but I knew that I did get married, he would be the one.

I didn’t have a list then but now that I think about it, if I had a list then, my husband would probably fit the bill πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I never had a list- or if I did- Fiance didn’t really fit into it.  Fiance felt right to me, and happened naturally, and maybe that was the biggest thing on my list.  I always thought I would marry someone completely different, but he feels right to me. 

I did, however, have some must-haves.  He must be outdoor, and enjoy fishing, camping, hiking, and hunting.  That was one thing that was an absolute MUST for me, and Fiance fit that!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I didn’t have anything specific written down as well ( Hair, eyes, height) but I think where it really counted, values and personality, he fit the mold of what I wanted.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t think I really had a set “list”, but it seems like all my guys had something in common:

Dark Hair

Tall (-1)

Brown eyes (-1)

 

(LOL, Tall, Dark and Handsome!  hahaha)

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think my SO has everything i have imagined…when i was little i used to have this imaginary (inspired by my love for Disney movies) prince…we were the king and queen of our country…when i started dating i always realized the similarities between my dates and him…my SO happens to be TOO much like him..actually they r so much alike (even their names starts with the same letter) that this is mainly the first time i am remembering him πŸ™‚

on the side note my mother’s list of what her dream man looks like was: tall, dark skinned, dark eyes, and dark hair…walks in my dad= medium height (5’10) , VERY PALE, hazel eyes, light brown hair….opposite of her list hahaha …and she wanted him to be much like her father when it comes to personality BUT the only thing my dad has in common with my lovely grandfather is how calm they r and how they hardly ever get mad .

I wish my mom stuck to her “list”  cs she ended up with someone opposite of herself and they are just not meant for one another πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Actually, I had a list of the opposite: “Things I would absolutely not accept in a mate.” I’ve never had a type, so I found that this was very important in deciding if someone was a keeper. If he could check one thing on the list, he was out.

I wish more women did this. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I had a list. I wrote it in college (about 4 years before I met FI) and my mom found it and brought it to me last month. I even wrote “NO COMPROMISES” on it! I read it out loud to Fiance and he fits every one πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I had a few superficial requirements, like hight. I wanted someone a foot taller than me (I’m short – only 5’0), at least 6’0. My SO told me he was that hight, he lied, he’s only 5’11. I joke about kicking him to the curb for that.

Other than that I had an idea in my head of the type of man I wanted, but I didn’t realize how that person would come together until I met my SO. He’s a total sports, beer drinking, mechanic guy. But he’s rather quiet, extremely intelligent and so sweet. He’s not really the type to fight but the type that would step up and defend me if needed. He loves his family and will do anything for them, but they don’t control his life. He also is a individual with his own tastes, likes, feelings and personality, but he puts up with my dominating nature and knows how to make me happy without backing down and conforming to what I say/want/am.

As I was getting to know him, it amazed me more and more each day how he is exactly the guy I would have described I wanted, but I never would have thought the complete package would have been him. Kind of like I couldn’t see the forest through the trees until I met him. Don’t know if that makes sense. But I do know I’m madly in love with him and he is the best guy for me.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

I had a list but now I’ve realized its more of a feeling. I never understood the old “you’ll know when you know” saying. But now I do. I’m so happy in my relationship and can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with him

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

FH actually had a list from two years before we started dating. We joke that I’m a 10.5 out of 11 because I do not completely fit the “loves to sing and dance”- I am horribly self-conscious about my singing voice.

FH fits the “type” I’ve typically been attracted to (blue eyes, Christian, geeky) but in other ways he fits me better than I knew I wanted. When I entered college I knew I didn’t want to date my ex- well, his brain really. Most of my friends growing up were in gifted with me, so I’ve always been used to a certain level of thinking- and spending a great deal of time with someone who simply cannot get there made me feel hindered.

Of course if you go by that life plan I made in 11th grade Health- I would be “finding time to marry” sometime in my late 20’s-early 30’s, once I had at least started on my post-graduate work- not when I’m 20, about to finish undergrad!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I just knew I needed to find someone who did not make gross noises when he ate.  Honestly, chewing with your mouth open or smacking your lips would end it all for me!

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