(Closed) Fixed my dress regret by saying yes…AGAIN

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 61
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

OP what does your 1st dress look like?

 

Post # 62
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Busy bee

I think the +60 likes on the first post saying it isn’t flattering says a whole lot. 

 

Post # 63
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

One thing I’ve learned from wedding planning is that there’s no such thing as objectively right.  Everyone has different opinions on what looks good and what doesn’t (i.e., the “help me choose which dress” threads where the vote is split but commenters are convinced that one dress it perfect).

I think the dress itself is awesome, and I would love to be able to pull it off.  I think the OP probably knows that because it is not as structured, there’s no way it will provide the same hourglass shape as the old dress.

Sometimes you want a dress that isn’t the absolute most flattering.

ETA:  And what I mean by not most flattering is that we could all be in ruched, corset mermaid dresses that give us a banging shape, but there are lots of other considerations that go into it that make us choose something else, like comfort, venue, and uniqueness of the dress.  I don’t think it has to be the MOST flattering dress you try on for it to be the right dress for you.

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Post # 64
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Helper bee

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purrrbaby:   This is Ops original dress. I believe it is a Pnina

Post # 65
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Busy bee

Unfortunately, the dress is not flattering on the OP.  I saw the picture of the other bride wearing it and didnt think it looked good on her either.  Its just not a good look.

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Post # 66
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Bumble bee

OP what does the back look like? Does it come up high just like the front?

I really loved your Pnina and I’m usually not a fan of her gowns. It gave you such an hourglass shape. I thought you looked so happy in that dress. The Lazaro, while unique, makes your silhouette look like a rectangle and I think the horsehair trim on the tulle skirt is so wide it distracts from the beautiful lace and beading. 

Post # 67
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I too think that the original is more flattering. Do I love the original? no. Do I love the new one? no. Does that matter at all? no! 

What matters here is what YOU want and what makes YOU happy.

Everyone has different taste, some more unqiue than others. My own mother has said to me when we were out shopping “thank you for bringing me but at the end of the day all that matters is what you want”

Yes, I do think that most brides want a dress where the guests will say “wow, that’s beautiful, what a stunning bride and great taste!” but so much of that comes down to your confidence, your smile, etc. People remember the good time had by alll and being there to see that commitment between you and your husband. You will remember how you felt, you will look back on your photos and be happy. Consider this when making your decision.

People always have their opinions. We often seek reassurance for the choices we make. But at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what others think! I posted a poll on here about my dress regret and while the majority of people agreed with me, I think even if they hadn’t, I still would have made the same decision. Dont let others sway you or change your mind or you’re just going to end up with dress regret again. 

Stick to your decision and rock it girl! Lazaro makes some super unique and amazing dresses, and you know what you want. Besides, you said it yourself, it needs some altering, etc. You will look amazing on your big day, no doubt about it at all!

Post # 68
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Busy bee

Is the zipper in the front?

Post # 69
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

The top says beachy boho with a twist of 1960’s mod, and the bottom says modern, couture bride. All together it is a very unique gown and if it makes YOU feel like a bride then that is what matters. I chose a gown that wasn’t the most flattering style for my body too, but I felt so amazing in it I can’t imagine choosing something else. I think your smile in your photo says it all and I can’t wait to see the final look! As for the veil, this gown is so edgy, maybe you could even just find a really interesting hairpiece instead? I think a halo style piece of hair jewelry would really mix the boho and couture feel of your gown and look incredible with it. I recommend erica elizabeth designs, I got mine from her and I adore it! Much more worth the money than a piece of fabric IMO. I’d check out this website for some ideas! http://www.ericaelizabeth.com/products/bridal-headpieces/?view_all=true 

Post # 70
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Helper bee

I liked the photos you took with your grandfather in your first dress. But I have to admit you do shine in this dress! It looks lovely!!!

Post # 71
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

It’s your wedding and your choice but your first dress was far more flattering, and at least 93 other people think so based on applecat’s post with 93 likes. 

Post # 73
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Busy bee

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ksn1219:   you know, good for you.   I’m hard headed too and if I like something no one else does so be it.

I don’t really think many of the comments were too harsh though.  As you just got it I think many people are wondering if you really think you made the right choice and it would still be possible to cancel the order if you looked at it again in a new light.  

I don’t think it’s a personal attack, more so that people don’t want to see you upset later if you decide it really isn’t flattering too you.  You gotta take criticism with a grain of salt. Not everyone is out to put you down.

 

Edit: I am still wondering though if it zips in the front.  I’m on my phone and with the way that front separates am I right? Now that would be super odd if it does. 

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Post # 74
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Helper bee

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ksn1219:  I think you’re overreacting.  I think most people were just trying to help.  I know that you disagree, and at the end of the day, everyone knows that your opinion is the only one that matters.  I know you didn’t ask for an opinion, but you’ve posted pictures of yourself in both dresses on a wedding forum.  It was inevitable for people to make a comparison, and most of the comments I saw were gentle, yet honest.  Because honestly, you look breathtaking in the first dress.  Just hearbreakingly beautiful.  But what’s more important is how you feel, and you obviously don’t feel the same way, so just own it and ignore it.

Post # 75
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

apparently I’m the odd man out bc I honestly was not fond of your first dress. I actually love this new one you’ve chosen! 

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