Post # 1
My bridal shower is in NY, where most of my family and friends areb but I live in Florida. So coming up with way to tell all of the guests for the shower that if they choose to buy a gift, that we would rather them ship it to out home in FL. Because in the long run it would be easier for me to travel.
Problem is that all the ettique article and boards say that you should spread it by word of mouth.
We finally came up with an awesome solution!
A Photo Gift Shower! The guest can purchase the gift online have it shipped to the bride but bring a wrapped picture for the Bride to open.
This is what we are including on the Shower invitation:
Photo Gift Shower
[BRIDE] is flying to [STATE] for the party. If you choose to purchase a gift please consider shipping it to her home and wrapping a great picture to open at the shower. Be creative! Prize for the most interesting gift wrapping job! Thanks in advance for helping make her trip home easier.
[insert registry infor and shipping address here]
We thought a way to make it fun was to have a prize for most creative wrapped present!
I hope this helps anyone who was in the same boat I was! Let me know if you used a similar idea or put a neat new spin on it!
PS. If you think this is tacky, keep it to your self. I hate seeing hateful and rude posts.
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2012 - Country Club
I really like the idea, My Fiance and I are stationed in England, so I am flying home for the shower. We are doing a similar type deal. My family was all on board for shipping the gifts to us! I also have had lots of friends do this. It seems like a great idea for out of town brides. I haven’t heard of anyone saying this is tacky, and if they do, oh well! Hope you have a great shower!
Post # 4
Won’t people just order the gift online, and get it shipped directly to your house that way? Rather than going to the store and taking a pic and wrapping it then shipping it?
Post # 5
Great idea! We’re doing something similar for my shower (which is in Philly and I’m in Atlanta).
I’ve found that the etiquette opinions on the Bee are pretty negative on this topic in general: “Heavens, no! You can’t possibly think of asking guests to ship a gift to your home in another state even though it would be utterly impossible for you to fly home with toasters and crockpots and a knife block. Why, it doesn’t matter that almost all stores offer free shipping …it is a shower, and thus the bride must be seen opening the china place setting by place setting and thanking Great Aunt Myrtle for the crystal candle holders.”
I’m usually very traditional when it comes to general wedding etiquette (inner and outer envelopes, hand calligraphy, the whole nine), but I do feel that this is a rule that’s changing and evolving as it’s becoming more commonplace for couples move out of state for school and jobs (and they don’t move home)….probably also selfishly because I’m in this situation now and it’s proven stressful!
Post # 6
@HisIrishPrincess: We’re doing something similar, but having them print the pic from the online order and wrapping that. No trip to the store necessary.
Post # 7
@phillybride61513: Logistically that makes more sense to me, plus if I don’t have to go to a store and can just ship it from my computer, I’d do that.
Post # 8
I really like the idea of a photo shower! It’s definitely a better option than asking for cash/gift cards or having to haul everything back on the plane yourself. With a photo, guests still get to see your reaction to the gift and can have fun picking it out and wrapping the photo. I think it’s a great idea!
Post # 9
Cute idea….. i’m in the same boat, travlling for my shower. What are the ages of yuor guests? i have an older crowd… i don’t know whether they would know how to print an image..& i would hate for them to feel left out. OR i wouddl hate to only get 1 or 2 pics to open! lol
Post # 10
That’s such a cute idea! Let us know how it goes.
Post # 11
Great idea! I will also be a traveling bride and I’ve been trying to think of a way to ask people to ship gifts. This is a cute and practical solution.
Post # 12
@Nic01: How old are your guests? Even people in their 70s know how to use a film reel camera and get a photo printed from that… The shipping might be the harder part, but most of the time if someone is stuck they will ask an associate how it works 🙂
Post # 13
@Nic01: We have a pretty tech-savvy family with the expection of the grandmoms and great-aunts. Our parents will help the older ones get their gifts together, I’m sure.
Post # 14
Nic01 I don’t have any grandparents so mosy of my guests will be between 14 and 60. And I can only assume that they are pretty tech-savy and creative. This isn’t to say that people are allowed to bring a gift and I can only assume that a few people will bring a physical gift. Especially if they made something themselves. I think that it’s your party and you should be able to has out some things that you would like. So if it’s easier for you to have the gifts sent to your home rather than spending a fortune shipping them all back, then you should request it.We are planning on setting any boxes we recieve before the shower date aside so my fiancé and I can open them together after the shower. He deserves some surprises too, right?
phillybride61513: I am pretty traditional as well. Thats why it was so hard to come up with an idea that wasn’t tacky or would offend anyone. Hopefully it works. Fingers crossed.
Post # 15
@Elky: The shipping would be the easy part as the department store will organise it for a nominal fee – the purchase can be done online or in person – i’m just worried about the actual picture taking/ printing –
Don’t get me wrong, i think this is a great idea, but if i were invitedas a guest to my own shower i would have to go out of my way to either take a pic of the item instore (remember to take a camera – becuase the old folks dont have picture phones) then go somewhere to develop the one image.
OR ask for help to purchase the gift online, & ensure i have a printer to print the image…
Am i getting this all wrong??
@akuehl_stone_0706: You are right, it is my party & i’ll do what i want 🙂 I’m one of those brides that constantly gets in trouible (& out of pocket!) for considering other people so much ALL the time. I think at some point, i’m going to have to do what’s best for me.
When is your shower? Please come back for a recap – & could you post a pic on the invites??
Post # 16
@Nic01: Mine is April 20th in the Philly area. Will keep you posted…fingers crossed that I don’t have go go running around the city returning items before flying home to Atlanta!