(Closed) flagging when nothing mean is said? thanks guys

posted 7 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
Member
4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If you got a message from an admin…then the flagging wasn’t for nothing. (People can flag for anything, but unless something serious is flagged, then you’ll never hear about it.)

Post # 5
Member
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@glamachica45:

I have never seen you on the boards. hence I’ve never flagged you.  But question… why are you posting this?  Why don’t you handle this with the mods in an adult way?  They are they ones that can explain it to you, not us.

ETA: Just checked that thread… wow.  There is a section for waiting bees on here, you should be familiar with what type of board you are on before posting.  Not everyone is engaged on this site and there are many delicate emotional matters that are posted here that need to be handled with tact (your post in that thread was not).  If the mods contacted you after a flagging, then that means that they thought it was distasteful (as do I).

Post # 7
Member
4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@DeathByDesign: yeah…you probably shouldn’t go around telling other people that they should rethink being on this website…that’s not very nice. 🙁

Post # 8
Member
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think this thread itself needs to be flagged because its just argumentative and unnecessary and reading the other thread posted by deathbydesign I have to say I agree with whoever flagged your post

Post # 9
Member
2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@glamachica45: To be fair, what you posted on that other thread might have made that other poster feel unwelcome (the way you feel now), so it is pretty understandable why you were flagged.

Post # 10
Member
1561 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You were being very judgy on that Waiting thread.  

Post # 11
Member
7777 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

If you are wanting to dispute a warning, you will get more prompt attention by PMing a moderator directly rather than posting on the boards. For the moment, I believe Mrs. DG is the head honcho of the mod team. You should really try sending her a message with any questions. 🙂

Post # 12
Member
5271 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I will say that after reading that other thread – I do actually think you were trying to give the girl advice based on your own experience, basically I felt that you did not want to see her to get hurt like you did when you were expecting your own proposal from your previous Boyfriend or Best Friend. BUT, you have to remeber that nobody can hear your tone of voice, and the words themselves came out a little harsh.

I don’t think your previous posts should lead to you being removed, but you do want to be aware of how you phrase your emotions.

Post # 13
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I am sorry if you feel like your flagging was unwarranted. It sounds like while you didn’t intend to hurt or upset anyone despite that being the end result.

I am very wary of the flagging option and have yet to use it. I can say with 100% that there have been other bees that have said far worse things than what you even suggested about certain things that apply to me with judgements about money spending etc. Rather than flag I ignore it, but not everyone operates under that plan.

Stick around and don’t feel unwelcome…this is what happens when large amounts of women (and some men) occupy a single space. I know that I over moderate what I say (almost to the point of silly) so perhaps that is the best option in the future?

Best of luck!

Post # 16
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390 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Maybe you were flagged for your down talking and rudeness. Who are you to tell someone if they shoud be on here or not? Also, after reading many of your posts, you give backhanded compliments.

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