(Closed) *Flails and throws things* I WANT MY DAMN ELOPEMENT!

posted 6 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You know the fun thing about an elopement?  It is often done in the face of families who have nothing but good intentions!  

It is easier to ask for forgiveness than for permission.  I say go disappear for a weekend, have YOUR elopement (But take a few pictures for the parents, eh?).

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

your family can’t refuse your elopement. Your the Bride, and an adult, family or not do what YOU want and what makes you and your husband happy. Don’t  cave in over grief from others because your the one who is going to remember all the details of your day the rest of your life. Your guests will seldom think of your wedding after it’s over  so you don’t want your day to be one you look back on as something you did want or feel comfortable with. Everyone else will have to get over it:)

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

 RUN @HisLittleRed:!!!! RUN!!!  Go get your elopement!  I was mentally screaming “Hell yea!  You go girl!! Runn off and do it your way!”

Frank Sinatra would be proud if you did it your way!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

May I suggest a surprise wedding?  Invite the people that YOU want to be at your wedding for a nice dinner, and surprise them with a ceremony first!

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My Fiance is the one who refuses to do an elopement…to please his familiy. He’s afraid of pissing them off. My family would be pissed too, but I’m not afraid of them.

And he refuses to help at all with planning the wedding. He is working on saving money for it, but that’s it. No other input. It’s totally ruined any enthusiasm I had for it. He keeps referring to it as my day and all he has to do it show up. All I want is an elopement now. Maybe I won’t plan anything either….we’ll both just show up the day of and see what happens, lol!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Take in the reins.  Elope or have a surprise tiny wedding.  Done.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

@HisLittleRed:  I love your avatar it’s one of me and my FI’s favourite quotes and I think I want it on our invites! Also giggled at the ‘flailing’ part of the title of your thread!

I would try and explain to him that a wedding is about you and him. I personally would only want me and my Fiance and our parents as the MAX at our wedding and I’m already dropping hints so when we speak about our plans next year he wont be surprised.

Tell him how you want it to be special between yourselves and you could throw a party for everyone when you get back?

 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Yeah….   this all worries me too 🙁 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I, too, would prefer to run off to Vegas and purchase one of their darling packages at the Bellagio or something.  Instead, my fiance is a down-home country boy, and he feels compelled to include his ENTIRE FAMILY.  That’s about 180 people, all of whom are related to him, and who would apparently be devestated about not attending his wedding. (Boo!)  Unfortunately, we don’t have the means to do the ‘big fancy wedding’ thing, so we’re keeping the costs down as much as possible.  

I don’t care so much about the wedding.  I care about getting married to HIM.  So I go along with what’s important to him in this arena.  Plus, he’s saved just enough to handle the big parts: wedding venue, reception venue, food.  All the trinkety little details will be up to me.  And me is a cheap scrooge! (Yay!)

I come from a non-wedding family.  I don’t think anyone in living memory has had anything other than a courthouse wedding.  We don’t know much about them, and have no strong feelings toward having them.  So things like ‘what type of flowers are you going to have?’ makes me think ‘Why have flowers at all?’

I’m right there with ya, sister.  Word.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Go elope! Or the surprise wedding is a good idea too. It’s your day, your life, your memories. Do it YOUR way!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Also, your dress is way cool!

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