(Closed) Flakey friend and her ex-boyfriend issues

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I’d tell her you need an rsvp by dec 31st. If she can’t commit by then, invite john.

Post # 4
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1508 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Lovemelovemyhorses:  This.

Also, explain to her that if she RSVPs NO at the end of Dec but has a change of mind coming june(obviously pending a spot being open) that she is welcome to come(provided you want her there) but to keep in mind that John will likely be there.

Post # 5
Hostess
7560 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I think it’s unfair to ask someone to RSVP 6 months in advance. Maybe give her until March? Three months is ample time to plan a trip. 

Post # 6
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3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

If you set an rsvp date, you stick by the rsvp date. If she doesnt respond by then, you invite the other.

Also… you are bound to get more no’s then yes. So I would still invite John. There are more chances that someone else will pull out rather than her. If she does decide to attend, she should respect your wishes that John is still a friend. If shes a friend, she will support you rather than whose there and whose not there. If shes a true friend she will be like. Well thats cool – we can be adults and get along.

I think John sounds mature enough that he wont cause drama if both of them are there.

Anyway, my two cents.

Post # 8
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1508 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@DecoMeOut:  I’m having a destination wedding as well and we sent out invites early august 2012 for our wedding June 2013. Everyone had until Oct 1st to rsvp if they were booking with the group.  I also told anyone not booking with the group that we needed to know by March if they would be attending as we need to let the resort know our numbers.

So def dont think you’re sending them out too early. If it was a local wedding  then you’d be pretty early but its not. Stick with your plan- Give her until dec 31st if not invite John and if she is avail to attend in June just give her a heads up on the circumstances .

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