(Closed) Flaky BM

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
5399 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m having kind of the same situation but the flake is my sister!  Man, can you be my sister? LOL!  

Post # 4
508 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

At this point, I wouldn’t worry about singling her out.  Babysitting everyone may just annoy the others, especially when it may seem clear to everyone who the target is – everyone but the flaky Bridesmaid or Best Man, most likely.

Can you reach out to her one-on-one and say you’re excited about your ideas, but would like to function more as a team?  That may help her get on board.  

Post # 5
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

<p class=”MsoNormal”>Thats a tough one! I can relate because my Maid/Matron of Honor has been a bit flaky herself, in a very similar situation. After years of ramming it in my head that when the wedding finally came she HAD to be the Maid/Matron of Honor (we’ve known each other since being in diapers) we got to the planning process and she started having a terrible time with her long-time boyfriend. At first I was upset, but after talking to a lot of friends and family, I realized that she was having a hard time being happy for me when her life was completely crumbling around her. It sounds like this Bridesmaid or Best Man may be in a similar situation. Remember the last time you had a major breakup? I know from personal experience it can be really depressing and it can be really hard to face the everyday world, let alone a big celebration of someone elses love success. That being said, maybe try and focus her on aspects of the wedding that aren’t so…lovey dovey. Maybe have her help more with the bachlorette party? While I think she probably needs more TLC than babysitting, and you certainly don’t need to be putting a lot of time into someone who is slacking, you may get a better response if you try and be sympathetic….I am very curious to hear other responses!

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