(Closed) Flaky Bridesmaids

posted 11 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

No, your not wrong.  This happened at my best friends bachelorette.  One of the Bridesmaid or Best Man had just had her baby.  One was in another state.  They had good reasons.  Did yours have good reasons?  All I can say is that some bridesmaids don’t understand their responsibilities when they accept to be Bridesmaid or Best Man.  Even if they can’t be there, they should still help pay.  Ask if they would be willing to help pay for the brides hotel room or her dinner.  

Post # 4
314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Sorry, I don’t agree with Charm bracelet at all. I don’t think your bridesmaids are under any obligation to pay for this or any other function. Come on, these are your friends! They have their own lives and own financial responsibilities, and I really dislike the notion that agreeing to stand with you on your wedding day implies an obligation to spend untold of amounts of money on parties and showers. I think that any bridesmaid worth her salt is going to do her utmost to participate in making your wedding festivities as wonderful as she can, but not everyone can afford to bankroll a bachelorette, a tea, a shower, a wedding gift, a dress (and all related accessories), hair, makeup, travel, etc. Count yourself lucky if your girls can.

I think (I’d like to hope) that, in general, brides appreciate everything their bridesmaids do for them and understand that some of them may have limits. Please don’t rush into thinking that your bridesmaids owe you. If you haven’t already, have an open conversation with them about the role you’d like them to play in all of this, and allow them to respond with what they are capable of and willing to do. Hopefully you can vet any future disappointments this way.



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