Flawed diamond VS moissanite

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

i would have to say “it depends” 

if you mean an I1 clarity that is still sparkly, not cloudy and isn’t speckled with carbon, then maybe. but if you mean an I3 heavily included stone that looks like frozen spit, i’d definitely pass on it. 

in your price range if you’re hard set on having a large diamond, i’d look into one of those “rough” or “raw” looks that are trendy now. diamond slices are a new thing too. you know, it’s celebrating the imperfections and not just hoping no one notices? 

examples of those are:  https://www.etsy.com/shop/DiamondsByNiki 

and this store has some beauties:

https://www.etsy.com/shop/PointNoPointStudio

also worth noting: sometimes the bigger the diamond is, the more obvious the flaws are. so if you’re worried about people judging the stone, they will certainly judge the quality if (at arm’s length) it’s noticeably cloudy and speckled. heavily flawed diamonds look dull and don’t sparkle much. so you wouldn’t win either way if judgement is your concern. therefore, i wouldn’t care what others think and i’d get what i love. 🙂 

Post # 17
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Bumble bee

My diamond is a light gray color, I2 clarity with visible inclusions, and I love it. I purposely chose it because it’s 150 years old and I love ‘rescuing’ old things that are not considered as valuable. So for me, I’d probably not choose a ‘perfect’ diamond, regardless of price. 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle

Nobody really “needs” a larger stone; it’s a matter of preference. If you’re going to be upset every time someone gives you a backhanded compliment about a non diamond ring, I’d probably get a really nice diamond wedding band and wear that. It’s more practical with a newborn anyway. If you don’t care what anyone thinks, get the moissanite.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I am a diamond girl all the way, but in this case I say moissanite. If you’re not ok with pretty obvious inclusions, I think you might regret the flawed diamond. I’ve seen diamonds that have very unnoticeable flaws, but with the budget you’re talking about and the size you want, moissanite would be a better option. I didn’t even know about moissanite until I joined Weddingbee, and while I’d still choose my diamond any day, I do love seeing the moissanite options. They are so unique!

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

graciekart88 :  As someone who prefers diamonds, I wouldn’t choose either stone. I’d rather wait and save the money for an eye clean diamond. 

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

An “I” means not only are inclusions visible, but they may pose a risk to integrity of the stone. And depending on who graded it, it may be “worse” than a GIA or AGS I, and should have been sold for commercial use (diamond grit, etc) instead.

I own both diamonds and moissanite. If I had to choose one I would go for a diamond, but for me that also means adjusting ny expectations in my budget – such as going for a smaller diamond with higher clarity. In your shoes, I would still choose a diamond, but I would go for a smaller stone, with an excellent cut, and minimum eye clean SI1, and as low a colour as you were comfortable with. If you have a budget in mind, I recommend going to the people on the Rocky Talky forum at Pricescope to help find you a lovely diamond. Do not mention moissanite while you are there though!

Put it in a halo if you want more coverage.

But moissanites are also lovely, and if you are not willing to compromise on size with your budget and really “need” a stone that is equivalent to about 2cts, I would suggest going with a moissanite. It will look and perform far better than a highly included diamond. They aren’t fake just because they are not diamonds. If you want a modern round cut, I highly recommend the H&As from Moissanite Co.

I don’t agree with your friend, or her comparison of “real to fake”. I think more of it like I would rather have a pretty Timex I like to look at and can tell the time on, than a busted up, scratched all to hell Rolex I can’t tell time with but wear just to say I have a Rolex.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

There is no world in which I’d choose a gemstone or sim or moissy over a diamond. Yes, I’d prefer to wait or size down a little for a more eye-clean stone but I would not spend a chunk of money on a non-diamond as an ering, period. That being said, if you’d genuinely be happy with a moissy, then you should get one- its all a matter of personal preference and what really matters is that you love it.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2019 - Costa Rica

graciekart88 :  owww your friend is shady… lol but yeah I prefer a diamonds over a moissy and gems that resemble diamonds.  But ur situation is unique, a I diamond to me is simply not worth it unless the inclusion can be covered by a prong or something. Maybe go down colors, or get a VG cut instead of a EX. 

Post # 24
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692 posts
Busy bee

RayKay :  You always have the best posts! Nailed it on the head!

Post # 25
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - Aspen, Colorado

graciekart88 :  What about a 5 stone ring? You can get a 1-1.5 total carat weight 5-stone diamond ring for a few thousand. It’ll give a wider spread and I think it would look good on a size 9 finger. 

If not, I’d go with a moissanite. But if you’re willing to have inclusions have you ever checked out salt and pepper diamonds? They’re stones with obvious inclusions but they look beautiful and rustic. So if that’s your style def check those out too.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Moissanite is a gem unto itself – it’s not a ‘fake’ diamond, anymore than a ruby or an emerald is a ‘fake’ diamond.

I would go with moissanite – they are gorgeous and have fantastic sparkle. They are ethically produced, and they are durable. I’d also be worried with a heavily included diamond that it won’t be very structually sound – too high a chance of it cracking.

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

RayKay :  Perfect answer!

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

graciekart88 :  Maybe consider a beautiful center stone that’s not a diamond (such as morganite, sapphire, emerald – which is cheaper than a diamond), and then have a diamond halo around it. I have a ring like this and it’s absolutely gorgeous!

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I am a hardcore diamond lover lol. I am ok with some inclusions, even some I1 inclusions are able to be hidden below a prong. However, if it looks terrible, then no, I don’t want it. That said, I would never choose a simulant over a diamond. And yes, moss is a diamond simulant. It is only in very recent years people have been touting it as it’s own gem. Anyways, I would choose either a smaller diamond or a different natural stone – maybe a sapphire or something. I don’t care what other people choose to wear, but to me, it would feel fake and I would not be ok with that. So smaller diamond or other non simulant gem would be my choice.

Post # 30
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

graciekart88 :  If you are willing to do a diamond five stone as some have suggested, which really would give you amazing coverage across your finger even though not a solitaire, I know of a couple antique/vintage rings that I would LOVE for myself that I can pass the info on to you for. They are both under or about $2,000 USD.

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