(Closed) Flawed diamond

posted 4 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you..
    Send it back & ask for better stone (exchange) : (48 votes)
    46 %
    Wear it until able to afford an upgrade (years) : (23 votes)
    22 %
    Shut up & learn to love it : (26 votes)
    25 %
    The Pics look normal, flaws aren't noticeable : (8 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5407 posts
    Bee Keeper

    If he’s had it for a few months, I doubt he could return it at this point. Did he do research and know what he was getting with an EGL I1? Is this the best his budget will allow? If so, I think you are probably going to have to learn to love it unless you want to chip in. Did he overpay for it?

     

    Post # 4
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    168 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    @SweetieP:  I know g is supposed to fall into the nearly colorless range, but next to my e g coloured bands looked incredibly yellow as well. Depending on your fiance and finances I would go with option a or c. If you can learn to love it,  then do. If you can’t and think he will be receptive, then look into other stones. EGL is also a company I would avoid personally as their standards tend to be lower than GIA.

    Post # 5
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    11284 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @SweetieP:  with i1 clarity, you’re bound to see the flaws with the naked eye.  you can always take it in to the jeweller to see if they have one you can upgrade to.

    Post # 6
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    3402 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @SweetieP:  Personally, I’ll admit that I’m choosy as heck about my jewelry. My FI wouldn’t even attempt to buy me a piece of jewelry, and would probably just give me the money to do buy it instead. I think the key is finding the areas that you are willing to compromise on. For me, I was willing to compromise on color & I didn’t care if it was a diamond. I wanted a clear, large, incredibly sparkly old european cut something, and so we went with moissanite.

    I know moissanite gets a TON on flack from people here, but seriously, if there is any part of you that is willing to give it a shot, please at least look into it. I ended up with a 3ct Old European Amora Moissanite & I LOVE it! It’s a VS1 clarity stone with exceptional brilliance. It is a J color, however, so this likely wouldn’t work for you. But they also have different cut moissanite (such a amora or forever brilliant round brilliant) that are around the F-G range, and but they are graded by a more reputable lab and EGL, so their grading is very much spot on.

    I know I personally couldn’t make myself fall in love with a ring that didn’t do it for me, so I would do whatever I could to upgrade (I actually saved with my FI and we bought my ring together). Lots of people here will say learn to love it, but if it’s something that really bothers you, I don’t think you can make yourself enjoy it.

    Post # 7
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    953 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @SweetieP:  Take it to a reputable jeweler (preferrably not a chain, someone who is GIA certified) and ask for their opinion.

    A friend of mine was given an E-ring by her ex that he claimed to have financed for $8k with an appraisal of $10k (can’t remember the weight but it was over 1ct.) After finding out that he had a gambling problem and drained their accounts, she took the ring to get appraised at which point she found out that it had a HUGE inclusion and was hardly worth anything. Two jewelers refused to buy it and she finally sold it for about $500 to someone who took pity on her. 

    I know her story is extreme but I don’t want you to get ripped off 🙁

    Post # 11
    Member
    5407 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @SweetieP:  well with an EGL stone, you’re not getting the quality you would from GIA or AGS at the same stats but an EGL diamond should also be cheaper, unless the seller is ripping you off. Where did he get it from? Buying diamonds is hard because there are a lot of people who will take advantage of you if you let them. You have to do research and know what you’re getting. I guess if the company he ordered from would take returns at this point you can explore that. An independent appraisal may be a good idea, although if you can’t change it there’s really no point. 

    Post # 12
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    305 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    @SweetieP:  EGL is liberal in their grading. You can expect to add about 2 color grades to correspond to the GIA scale so yours would probably score I or J on the GIA And the I1 would most likely be lower as well. There is a reason people choose EGL for grading so keep that in mind if-when you shop for an upgrade. Personally, I would attempt to trade it because it will continue to bother you. Once you get married, the kids come, then the house, then tuition, etc… And there will always be something that trumps your upgrade so do it now while the focus is on the wedding – and it’s not really an UPgrade if you find one comparable in price. Right? You’ll probably have to go lower in size to upgrade quality in the same price range though. Congratulations on your engagement and I hope you find your dream sparkle soon. 

    Post # 13
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    163 posts
    Blushing bee

    Unfortunately that’s the problem with EGL graded stones, if it was graded as G I1, it could very well be a J I2-3 in GIA standards. It seems unlikely that he could get his money back since it’s been a few months. Trying to sell diamonds (especially in that clarity/color combo since it’s a EGL certification) is quite disheartening, since you’ll get nowhere near what he paid for it. You might have to hold on to it. But hey its true, he gave it out of love 🙂

    Maybe check if the online store he bought it from has an upgrade policy? It would make it easier for you later on if you decide on changing the stone, but just remember to get one that has a GIA or AGS certification so you know what you’re getting!

    Post # 14
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    3221 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @Kat:  the color grading of Amora is NOT spot on. My Amora round is supposed to face up F/G, but is incredibly yellow compared to my GIA H diamond. I can take a photo and upload it if you’d like to see the difference, because it’s very pronounced. 

    The only reliable labs that I would trust are GIA and AGS.

    Post # 15
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    428 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Not to be rude but why would someone buy diamond if he has no knowledge about it whatsoever. To make it worse, he sits on it for 3 months and assume that the woman will love it. It amazes me every single time I hear such story

     

    Post # 16
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    3221 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    If you aren’t able to upgrade or return the stone, do you think you can change the way you perceive the flaw? I ask because when a friend of mine was getting engaged, she said she wanted “2 carats diamond” and didn’t care about anything else. Well her poor boyfriend gave her a 2 carat ring, but it’s probably a K colour and has a very visible carbon spot right in the middle. It also has other flaws that are hidden by the prongs, but are still visible at certain angles. She was devastated, but came to love the stone because of its flaws and its uniqueness. 

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