Post # 1
so…I dont know what happened to last week but I feel like it was non-existant!
Now I’m 25 days from the big date and I had my first full on anxiety attack this morning! I tried to calm myself down by making a detailed itinerary for the month of September showing how I can accomplish everything…didn’t seem to help! So now I have closed that file and I am trying to take deep breaths!
Anyone else panicking about everything you have to get done?!
Post # 3
Just thinking about all the things I still have to do is making my stomach turn! And I say “I still need to do” because my Fiance seems to think all he has to do is show up and everything is going to be magically done.
I’ve had 2 melt downs already (not too major) but like you said its only 25 days to the day. I’m sure there’s many more where that came from. LOL.
I’d love to know any tips/tricks on keeping calm and not becoming the hated bridezilla! :s
Post # 4
I feel you. I had an out of town bacherlorette party this weekend, so I haven’t accomplished ANYTHING wedding related in like 5 days. Que panic at the disco.
Post # 5
Same here… I was pretty proactive about getting stuff done throughout the last year, but there were a lot of little things that needed to be put off til closer to the wedding. When I hit the 6 week mark I freaked. I live far enough away from my family and bridal party that no one is able to help me with anything, and Dear Fiance doesn’t mean to be unhelpful, but it’s just not his thing and he doesn’t really care. I started going through all the things that still needed to get done (by me, all by myself) and I had a huge, tear-filled pity party the other day.
The biggest thing that’s stressing me out is that we set our RSVP deadline for 9/15, because the venue needs firm counts by 9/30 and we still haven’t heard from over 100 people. I did save the dates and sent the invites 10 weeks out, because almost all our guests will be travelling. Now I’m worried we might not even meet the venue’s 75 person minimum requirement!
Post # 6
I don’t even really have that much left to do, but I’m freaking out cuz I’m afraid I’m gonna forget something since our ceremony is in Vegas which means I gotta remember to bring the essentials. Not only that, but I’m getting kinda nervous cuz it’s so close and I don’t want anything bad to happen. I’m also freaking out cuz we are so broke and I’m trying to figure out how we’re going to afford to pay off the wedding and have spending money on the honeymoon.
Post # 7
I’m also Oct 1. I haven’t even been thinking about my wedding at all. All my wedding stuff is at my parents house and I moved out here 3 weeks ago and I am just like over thinking about it. I will be back there on the 21 and we can finish up the other stuff so I might be more concerned then, but I’m the opposit of freaking out currently.
Post # 8
Yea. I had a meltdown and now my mom is scared to disagree with me (not my intention! I was just emotional!)
I also have not heard back from my brother whether he’ll be attending or not. I sent him a facebook wall message asking him to get in touch (he’s refusing to answer his phone) and he was online today, but apparently ignored my message. I’m a little heartbroken about this to be honest.
I’m stressing about my caterer who suddenly seems to have gone a bit crazy. I’m hoping she can get non-crazy again before the wedding.
Fiance still needs a suit (STRESS!) and we still need to buy and receive our wedding bands (MAJOR STRESS).
Post # 9
I’m losing my mind. I’m usually a very calm, roll with the punches kinda person but I’ve gone mental. I thought I was right on track but now I’m worried I’m going to fall asleep and wake up the day before the wedding and have nothing done!!
Still have DIY programs, DIY table number luminaries (half done), DIY ribbon wands… ugh the list goes on.
And my Fiance mother who I normally get along with and is a rational person, lost it yesterday when I politely put my foot down regarding her guests bringing more than their spouses. We are the only ones paying for the wedding. She said she was so stressed, she’s not going to the wedding. She’s since calmed, but hello walk in my shoes!
We are $10000 over budget and have just enough to pay everyone off (fingers crossed!).
Post # 10
So, ya I totally had meltdown #1 at work today…it was not pretty especially when combined with the no carb diet I am on – serious bridezilla.
Almost at that exact moment I got an email from my Coordinator with her Itinerary of everything she has in check, including my sorry butt. SO…I decided I was going to follow suit. I made a word document and went through day by day what I needed to do in order to 1) complete my DIYs 2) be organized for the big day 3) not forget anything 4) see that I can get it all done! I left the document open all day so I could add things as they crossed my mind and honestly I feel better.
Now, I went to print it out tonight and my co-worker suggested that perhaps printing it and seeing the whole 8 page document at once would set of another carb free meltdown. So I’ll print it on the weekends when I am not at my work computer. I do feel better – but I think I’ll be counting to 10 a few times a day!
I also feel like starting a FB posting every night for who managed to be atop my “list” for that day. Throw these people under the bus. Today it was my sister and Maid/Matron of Honor who called me to ask why the hotel was so much money and if I knew our block rate was only $10 less than the online rate…SERIOUSLY? 25 days before my wedding and you think I care about this? Dont stay there then, you live 10 minutes from the venue!!!!!
Post # 11
@jboltz19: Seriously, I feel you on the stupid questions.
My BM’s keep asking what they should wear for the REHEARSAL DINNER. I know they’re only asking so they can plan ahead but I don’t care! Wear whatever the hell you want and stop asking me questions!
Post # 12
Oh! And another thing that’s pissing me off. Tux rentals. We’ve been engaged for 14 months. Everytime I saw the groomsmen I asked what they wanted to wear. Suit, tux, whatever, doesn’t matter to me as long as everyone matches well enough. They ALL said they wanted to rent tuxes. I was like ok, great.
Now they’re all bitching to FH that they don’t want to spend $140 on tuxes. ARE YOU KIDDING ME MOTHER EFFERS. You’ve known about this for 14 months!!! I gave you the option of wearing something you already owned!!!! We’re 1 month and 1 day out. You’ll rent the fucking tux and love it.
Ha. Rant over. Sorry for thread jacking 😉
Post # 13
@jboltz19: The answer to your question is most def YES!! I’m seriously freaking! Especially about things I can’t control. My bridesmaids paying off the rest of their dresses in time to have them altered (they will not be in until Sept 9th). The groomsmen and their suits.
@2bMrsG:I feel you on the stress about the money! My stomach has just been in knots lately trying to make sure everything gets taken care of!
Post # 14
HAHAHA I love this! I’m standing at my desk and laughing out loud! Mainly because I can relate!!!
Post # 15
@AnneTossy: Well my tux annoyance was from my own dear father. I told him Aug 1 where he needed to go to get fitted. He is retired, no job, no commitments, free as a bird. I had to threaten him all last week that he needed to go and our deadline was approaching (small lie but serious WTF dad?) – he goes “stop talking to me like I am the only problem…its not like I am the last to get fitted”….I exploded and informed him that actually he was the last to get fitted, the only one without a job or otherwise fulltime commitment was the only one who couldn’t get themselves in to get fitted!!!
Post # 16
OMG yes, the stupid questions!!!!!!!
If one more person asks me what color tie their husband/bf/date/kid (WHO AREN’T IN THE WEDDING) should wear or if I plan on tanning/spray tanning, I’m going to flip out. Seriously… who cares?? LOL!