- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Hey bees…..I just got married and since it’s out of town, my husband and I stayed in a huge house with his best friends, my best friend, and his brother. Most of the people I was meeting for the time, and his brother I have only seen a handful of times and we haven’t spoken much. Well…things got a little crazy. My husband comes from a different culture where everyone is very touchy-feely, add me and my best friend drunk and, well…there were many hugs to be had! Nothing sexual, just affectionate arm linking and playfulness. My husband and I were totally fine with each other hugging each other’s friends of the opposite sex, as we were all pretty drunk the days leading up to the wedding.
This is where it gets a little weird.
So, one night when the party was just beginning, we all decided we’d hangout on the balcony of the house. My husband’s brother and I were the first out and we stood around for a moment, when he said, “Are you okay?” Thinking he meant alcohol-wise, I said, “Most definitely!” but he responded, “I mean with all of this. You don’t have to go through with it, you know.” Shocked, I just stood there staring at him, and by this time, other people were making their way out onto the balcony. He pulled me in and whispered, “I have some things I need to tell you. We’ll talk when we’re alone later.”
I was shocked and confused. What could he possibly have to tell me? Was my then-FI doing something I wouldn’t like?? Did he know something important that I didn’t know??
As the night went on, he would find me and say that he had a secret that I needed to know, that we still needed to talk about things. He hugged me constantly, saying I was his sister and that he loved me so much, etc…. Then, everyone went to sleep, except us. I was up doing wedding crafts and he said he was keeping me company. He mainly just sat in another chair watching TV, but would occasionally say something like, “I really like you. You seem like you’re one way, but you’re totally different than that. I love that.” Little things like that. I wasn’t sure how to respond, especially since we were both drunk, so I just said something like, “And I like you, my sweet little brother!” When I was ready to go to sleep, I took him to his room, across the hall from mine, and we talked, then he hugged me good night. But when he pulled away, he just stayed holding me. We just stood there, talking for a moment, then he whispered something to me and put his nose against my nose. I leaned out of his arms at that point and told him I hoped he slept well and went to my room.
The next morning was the wedding, and all the friends helped me throughout the morning, calming me down. When we all sat to eat breakfast, someone jokingly asked if we all had a good night and the brother (now sober) winked at me from across the table. I just smiled back because all the male friends had been giving me silly faces throughout the week. When I came back with my hair and makeup down, he gave me puppy eyes and told me I was beautiful, but again, all the male friends told me I looked beautiful with my hair done and dress on.
The ceremony and reception went well with my husband and I sitting at a table with all the friends. That night, we all had champagne and partied like the night before, but once again the brother and I found ourselves on the balcony together (on accident, because I thought my best friend was following us). By the time I noticed she wasn’t there, my husband was calling my name. When we got back inside, he accused the brother and I of kissing out on the balcony – which definitely did NOT happen. I immediately went to bed, embarassed, while the brothers talked in the hall.
So this morning, we all wake up, with the brother being the last, and he’s completely ignoring me. Turning his back when I walk by, not laughing at things he’d normally laugh at. I asked my husband to talk to him, but he said he was shocked I thought he was angry at me in any way. My husband thinks he’s just hungover and embarassed, but he’s going back home tomorrow and I don’t want to leave things in this awkward state, especially since we won’t see each other for a while. We’ve just become so close recently that I’d hate to ruin our friendship over a misunderstanding. Also, I’m so confused by what he had to tell me and why he would tell me I didn’t have to go through with marrying his brother…?
What do I do now??? What does all this mean??? Is there anyway to fix it? After we said goodbye tonight, I hugged the brother and told him I better still be his favorite sister and he said, “Of course. You always will be. Don’t ever think any different.” so some of the awkwardness is gone, but he sounded so serious, and…..I still just need an outsider’s opinion of what’s happened?
Thank you and I’m sorry for the length and confusing story!!!