(Closed) Flower Girl Ages

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
3697 posts
Sugar bee

Traditionally they are the last ones to go, right before the bride, but you can do something different if you choose. Ours were pretty little (14 mos. and 18 mos.) so we had them walk hand-in-hand with the maid & matron of honor and the best man & a groomsman.

Those ages should be totally fine – it depends more on the kids’ individual personalities, really. Shy kids of any age have a harder time with being in a wedding, but if the 5 year old is okay and the 3 year old will go with her big sister, you should have no problem.

Post # 4
3417 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

My cousin was 7 when she was a flower girl in my Aunt/Uncle’s wedding years ago. The rehearsal went ok but when it came time for her to walk down for the actual wedding she freaked out, well not freaked out she didn’t make a scene or anything but basically refused to walk down and became more and more nervous as guests arrived. I was a candle lighter with my other cousin (her sister who I think was 9 or so). My other cousin, the sister, ended up having to stand in as flower girl. Then after the wedding my cousin says “I’m ready to be flower girl now” lol.

I have seen younger girls do just fine though. Like PP said it depends on the shyness of the child. If she follows her sister I think she’ll do just fine. Just if she doesn’t want to walk in front of all those people be a little flexible with her :).

Post # 5
1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Five and a half seems great. I’m going to assume that she is or will already have been to kindergarten or nursery school by that point, and will be doing well at following rules and playing well with others. As long as she’s not shy (and it doesn’t sound like she is), you should be fine. Three and half is a little on the young side, but not as young as I’ve seen. Again — if she’s a calm kid and not shy, she should be able to make it through the duties.

Post # 6
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

My flower girls were 3, 5, and 7, and they did fine.  The five-year-old was totally responsible for the three-year-old, too (the youngest was in a wheelchair, and the two older ones were pushing her), and even though they didn’t even speak the same language, she stepped up to make sure that both she and the little one made it down the aisle with no problems.  🙂


Like PPs said, it depends on the individuals, but I think those ages are fine in general.

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