Post # 1
Is it okay to have just one flower girl in the bridal party and no ring bearer?. I was planning on having one but it may be a hassle for him to be at rehearsal since his family is out of town and may not be here by the rehearsal time. And there’s the hassle of getting his tux/suit, too without him being here.
Also, if I don’t have a ring bearer, who will hold the rings? The Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man?
Post # 3
We’re having three flower girls and no ring bearer. I just don’t really see the reason for one, and we have three nieces. Our best man and maid of honor will be holding our rings.
Post # 4
We’re doing the same. FI’s niece will be the flower girl but her brother is almost 10..just a tad too old for a ringbearer. Ditto Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man holding rings
I’ve also been to weddings without a flower girl or ring bearer
Post # 5
We’re doing exactly what you’re doing (one flower girl & no ring bearer). I think it is absolutely acceptable. We wanted to keep the bridal party small and we don’t have a little boy in our immediate family so we went without. If there were a child close enough to us we might have gone with a ring bearer.
Funny thing is I’ve asked people your same question very early on (vendors/friends) and they commented that no ring bearer is a smart choice… little boys can be very antsy when you put them in a tux 🙂
That = one less thing to worry about!
Post # 6
It is okay to do whatever you want. I am having a ring bearer and no flower girl.
Post # 7
We’re in the same boat…1 flower girl and no ring bearer. I don’t see it as being a problem. We haven’t decided who will hold the rings…but probably a Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen.
Post # 8
we’re having a flower girl but no ring bearer. we’re also having the flower girl’s older sister (13) walk with her down the aisle as a jr bridesmaid to keep the flower girl (who is just 3) from stopping and talking to people as she’s walking down. she’s just so social! 🙂
Post # 9
Totally acceptable! FH’s neice is our flowergirl amd we don;t have any special little boys in our life, so we don’t have a ring bearer. The Bridesmaid or Best Man will hold our rings 🙂
Post # 10
We have a flower girl and th Bridesmaid or Best Man will hold the rings.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
just the flower girl as well! I assume one or two of our siblings will hold our rings
Post # 12
I agree with everyone else. My sister just had a flower girl and it didn’t seem weird at all. The best man and maid of honor held the rings.
Post # 13
(I’m having a Ringbearer and he still won’t be holding onto the real rings… the Best Man will be doing that).
Post # 14
I’m doing the opposite – I have 2 ring bearers but no flower girl. The only little girl in either of our families isn’t going to be able to make it, and I didn’t want to ask someone who wasn’t close to the family to be a part of the wedding party just to have a cute kid in the pictures!
I think what you’re doing is totally fine – in fact, most people don’t have their ring bearer actually carry the real rings, anyway. In all the wedding I’ve been in, the best man/maid of honor took care of the actual ring, and the ring bearer just carried a pillow with fake rings attached to it. Its more for the tradition, anyway.