Post # 1
Nooo! I just found out that the ONLY little girl in either my or my fiance’s families is not going to be able to make it to our wedding! I was CERTAIN she’d be a shoe-in as flower girl (4 years old and cute as a button.) Now we have no idea what to do. We have a great 5-year-old ring bearer, but we’re stuck on the little girl.
Our options are:
1- No flower girl =(
2- 14-year-old cousin (this sounds more like a junior Bridesmaid or Best Man to me…)
3 – Invite a not-so-close family friend who DOES have a young daughter (6 or 7 yrs old.) Neither my fiance or I have met her but she’s the daughter of my fiance’s parent’s friends.
Any opinions, bees? Any options I’m missing here? What have you seen done when there are no eligible little darlings to be flower girl?
Post # 3
Personally, I’d probably just go with no flower girl. I wouldn’t ask someone you barely know for their kid to be in the wedding. We’re not having a ring bearer and I think that’s fine. Just my opinion.
Post # 4
Also, 14 is way too old for a flower girl. I have a bridesmaid in my wedding who is 15.
Post # 5
I honestly don’t think you need a flower girl. I’m lucky to have a 5-year-old whom I adore who will be my flower girl, but if she wasn’t around I wouldn’t have one at all. I really only want people in my wedding party who I know and who I’m close to.
I’ve been to plenty of weddings with no flower girl at all, and to be honest, I didn’t really notice the absence. You’ve got a cute ring bearer which I think is fabulous!
Post # 6
i would go with no flower girl. i wouldn’t want someone i don’t know in the wedding. i always pictured myself without a flower girl, and we’re only having one because my fi happens to have a super adorable niece that we love. if we weren’t close to her, i would have just gone without.
Post # 7
I vote no flower girl as well – we are not having one because we were stuck with the same problem – we’re having 2 jr. Bridesmaids instead.
Post # 8
Go with no flower girl. The worst option would be having a kid you don’t know be the flower girl.
Post # 9
I would go with no flower girl. Little children can get really upset around unfamiliar surroundings and people … especially when she doesn’t know you!
Post # 10
Unless you somehow form a really close bond with a potential girl in the next couple of months,I also think that you shouldn’t have a flower girl. As one of the babies of my extended family I was a flower girl in a couple of weddings for relatives that I wasn’t emotionally attached to and I was bored as hell, intimidated by all of the “old” ladies that I didn’t know, and felt like a doll the entire time.
Post # 11
I would go with no flower girl, too, given the circumstances.
Post # 12
Go without a flower girl. 14 is too old for a flower girl and you shouldn’t just find some girl you don’t know to fill in the spot.
Post # 13
I’d skip the flower girl. It’s not necessary. No one will miss it. Half the time they don’t make it down the aisle anyway.
Post # 14
I would skip the flower girl, as well. 14 is way too old for a flower girl and you shouldn’t invite people you barely know just so you can have a flower girl.
Post # 15
I agree with the other bees. in this case I vote for no flower girl.
Post # 16
Thanks for all the advice! I was getting really married to the idea of having one because my little cousin who I planned on asking is just so adorable. I have a very tight knit family and wedding party, so it would be strange to have this little girl be a part of it, even though FH knows her fairly well.