Post # 1
One of my bridesmaids is my the mom of my flower girl. A little over 2 months ago we found the flower girl dress I fell in love with the dress. To save her money I found the dress online and she said she wanted to buy it there. She would buy it in 2 weeks. Now 2 months later the dress has yet to be ordered. The site no longer exists. I spent hours, upon hours, searching for new sites to order from for her.She is now saying she does not trust the sites and does not want to order the dress there. She does not want to order the dress from the bridal salon because it’s to expensive. It’s $160. We picked the dress out together. At the time we were looking all the first communion dresses were out. Now she wants to change the dress. My wedding is less then 2 months away. We don’t have time to order a dress. We don’t have time to search and search to find a new dress. The new dress would have to come from David’s Bridal. The dress we picked out originally we can still get in time. It was perfect. It had beading on the front top like the bridesmaids dresses and laced up in the back like my dress and the bridesmaids dresses. Even though the dresses at David’s Bridal are nice, none compare to the origianl dress because they don’t compliment the rest of our dresses the same.
What do I do? I really want to say your fault you didn’t order it when you said you would, order it from the salon. The dress costs $160.But at the same time I feel bad about having her pay $160 for a flower girl dress, that is why I found it cheaper for her in the first place. I’m so upset, I don’t know what to do.
Post # 3
First of all, i understand your frustration with people in your bridal party saying they will do something, and then going back on their word. Hang in there.
If it means that much to you to have the flower girl wear that dress, would you be willing to pay for some of it? If you would, maybe that will solve the problem as it sounds that she just doesn’t want to pay the $160. What price did you find it online at the site that no longer exists? maybe if you are willing to pay for some of the price, you can let her pay the price she was willing to pay (but never did) and you cover the rest.
Our daughter is going to be our flower girl, so I let her pick any dress she wanted, Disney blossoms by Alfred Angelo in Rapunzel. I told her at that price she is going to wear it again after the wedding to any fancy occasion.
Post # 4
Thanks. I won’t pay the difference. The dress we found on the site, that I said no longer existed, it actually does, I just trusted her. The price of the dress just went up so when I looked for her again I didn’t give her that site because the price went up and I didn’t remember the name. I had to go back and check. THe dress was much cheaper because it was a knock of dress not by the designer so was $60. I won’t pay $100 for her mess up.
She agreed to buy the dress, I gave her the chance not to 2 months ago. The whole time planning my wedding its been nothing but problems, she didn’t want to ride in the limo with me. Fought about the bridesmaids dresses so bad I almost walked out. Complains how rude my mother-in-law is because she took charge of my shower, when my mother-in-law is one of the nicest people I know. Complains that she doesn’t have the money to pay for my $800 wedding shower all the time. I finally had to tell her to shut up because she’s not paying my mother-in-law is. Called and complained to me and expected me to care of the issues between her and my mother-in-law planning my shower. Refused to wear the same shoes for the wedding for the short dresses they have. I was letting them pick them out. Has fought me on everything I wanted, teling me its not a big deal, the only thing that matters is I’m getting married, the shoes don’t matter, it doesn’t matter what dresses they want to wear, I shouldn’t care. The only things I have a say in are my dress, the church, the reception, the stuff with the guys. I heard all kinds of complaints about the hotel we picked because it was the only one we could get but it was to expensive, which is an option to stay at, no one has to stay. But because of a major sporting event every other hotel in the area was booked and it was the only we could get and we explained this. I guess I want control over the choice of the things at my wedding. Not my bridesmaids controling these things.
Post # 5
OMG, she sounds like a nightmare! What is with her hostility?