Flower girl dressed in White/ Ivory Tacky?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@JustMarried51912: I think your post is coming across rather harsh, even if you don’t intend it that way. I was a flower girl when I was 12 and I wore white. I was still a kid, no way was I even considering that it might be “upstaging” the bride or something. I was young, it was fun to wear a pretty white dress. As far as her crying and whining, she’s 7. Temper tantrums happen, even to the best of children, and while she should be excited to be in your wedding, she’s still a child so try not to be so hard on her.

Glad you found a solution that worked for you.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I like the flowergirls in white/ ivory a nice spash of color is real nice too.

 

Though I would agree if they’re older/ bigger colored is probably a more favorable choice.

Post # 5
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2893 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t know. I like it. But that’s just me. It’s not like the flower girl purposefully wanted to upstage someone and chose a white dress just to make a statement. She’s a part of the party and was assigned that outfit.

I think it’s cute.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I always thought it was pretty standard for flower girls to wear white/ivory/the same color as the bride. I really don’t think that anyone would look at a seven year old and say “OMG who does she think she is upstaging the bride?!” I’m glad you found her a dress that both you and her are happy with, though.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I was a flower girl a few times when I was younger, and I always wore white or ivory. I think a girl who is 6-14 wearing a bridesmaid colored dress is going to be seen as more of a ‘junior bridesmaid’ than a flower girl.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I always thought it was alright. It’s really cute when they are younger. 

I know my Mother-In-Law informed me it is Spanish tradition for a flower girl to wear white and “match” the bride, even to the point of wearing a little miniturized version of her outfit, although not with the same leve of detail. 

She is 5 years old but pretty tall. Right now I am probably going to ask her to wear weight. If she winds up almost as tall as me (5’3″) I might change my mind. 

 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My bridesmaids were in black and my flower girls (who were 4 and 2) wore ivory with black accents.  Perhaps you could make a compromise with that?  Also, no one is going to upstage you simply by wearing a color.  You’re the bride.  Relax and marry your best friend.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

Dressing as a mini bride would mean wearing a veil, and I’ve yet to see that in real life. I’ve also only seen FG’s wear lighter colors as well.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I thought it was pretty standard for the flower girl to wear white/ivory and match the bride. I have been to a couple of weddings where the flower girl matched the bridesmaids but for the most part it’s been ivory or white.

@galloway111:  I agree with you about how this post comes across. OP, just because it’s not your preference to have your flower girl wear white/ivory, doesn’t mean that it’s tacky.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I wore a white dress as an 11 year old flowergirl.  It looked sweet and innocent.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I always think flowergirls are cute in white/ivory. My flowergirl will probably be wearing the same color as the bridesmaids because she’s my little sister and wants to feel like she’s one of the older girls (she’ll be nine). 🙂 Nothing wrong with wearing white or wearing another color! It’ll be sweet either way. 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t like the ones that match the wedding dress exactly but since I couldn’t find a Flower Girl dress that I liked that matched our colors I went with ivory. It ended up being super cute!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I don’t like that look either I Think to each their own,I though all the 100$ little white dresses were ugly @ the boutique we went to.my flower girls will be wearing pink dresses for 50$ way cheaper n to me way cuter.its your wedding so they wear what you say.I don’t want anybody in cream,ivory or white dress on my day no matter how young or old they may be.so I feel you:)

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Personally I don’t like flowergirls of any age wearing white. But thats just me. In my wedding they will wear the bridal party colour. However, I think its pretty harsh to call it tacky. It definitely is not tacky, in fact its the norm. 

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