(Closed) Flower girl hair

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’m also interested in hearing people’s thoughts.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Ugh I say NO, it’s not necessary, but this has been a source of drama with my wedding… I am treating my mom, Mother-In-Law and my BMs to wedding day hair and mani/pedis.  All I wanted for the flower girls was to wear their hair in their natural curls and I was going to get floral wreaths for their heads.  My one flower girl’s mom made a HUGE stink because she thinks her daughter (who is just barely 3 years old) needs to come with us and get her hair in a professional updo AND have a mani/pedi, too.  She was offended that I didn’t include her toddler in these plans and basically threw a hissy fit.  For the record, I am not close to this child or her mother (they are from DF’s side of the family and not including them wasn’t an option, unfortunately). 

It would cost me about $125 per child for all of these services, and basically I refuse to pay it.  I can’t afford it for both kids and it’s not something I wanted.  I told Momzilla that if she really insisted, she could call and make the appointments.  So she made the appointments and then complained to Mother-In-Law about how awful I am.  MIL felt bad and offered to pay for flower girl #1 and the Momzilla.  Now I’m not sure what to do about my other flower girl, whose mother can’t afford all of this.  I feel bad because the other flower girl is old enough that she could behave herself and actually appreciate the pampering and have fun…  It puts me in a really crappy position!!!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@seven12: yikes, that really exploded! are both kids from the same parent/is Mother-In-Law your mom or do you mean FMIL? it seems weird and totally wrong to only offer to pay for one girl’s hair.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@elliestan:  Sorry, I worded it confusingly!  The whole situation is so overly complicated and stupid!…  The flower girls are from different parents… One of the girls belongs to a dear family friend of mine.  She’s the older, better behaved flower girl.  The other flower girl is a relative from DF’s side of the family.  Her mother (the Momzilla), who is causing such a stink, isn’t even a blood relative of anyone. 

Anyway, the younger flower girl’s mother complained to Future Mother-In-Law about how I was being sooooo rude and sooooo unfair offering to pay for BMs hairdos and nails, but not her and her little princess.  So Future Mother-In-Law is now paying for both the bratty younger flower girl and the flower girl’s pain in the @ss mother to get their hair done and mani/pedi.  It’s not my money, so I know I shouldn’t really care, but to be honest, I’m not crazy about having this little monster screaming and throwing tantrums while I’m trying to relax before the wedding.  This kid is a HUGE brat and her mother makes my stress levels go through the roof whenever she is near me.

And now the older flower girl is the only female wedding attendant not “invited” to come to the spa and it makes me feel like a HUGE jerk.  I know her mom doesn’t have the money for it (they’re coming from wayyyy Out of Town, staying in a hotel all week, etc.), so I feel awkward even bringing it up.  If anyone deserves the spa day, it’s THEM.  However, it’s not something I planned on or budgeted for… Plus, just on principle, I don’t like the idea of spending $125 + tip for a child to be pampered at a spa!  I feel like it’s just absurd.  Idk what to do… 

 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

only if the flowergirl will be on toddlers in tiaras after your wedding… i think this is something that you can diy!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@seven12: that really sucks… i’d almost want to kick her out – her mom is such a brat and sounds like she’s setting an AWESOME example for her kid. maybe tell them it’s at a different salon ;]

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My flower girls (my beautiful nieces…4 and 7) are getting their hair done with us, and also joining us for mani/pedi’s the day before.  This isn’t so much because it is necessary, but because they are girly-girls that LOVE this kind of thing.  Most likely they will get their hair curled, nothing more, and wear the sparkly headbands I got for them.  My vendors are charging next to nothing for them at both salons, since we have a large group anyway, and doing their hair and nails will take hardly any time.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am also including my flower girl (age 7) in our “hair party” the morning of the wedding. My stylist and makeup artist are both coming to my hotel to provide hair/makeup services. I asked our flower girls mother before making her appt, she agreed that she could take care of it herself, but thought that it would be fun for her daughter to include her in the festivities! My stylist is only going to curl it and maybe pin it 1/2 up. Nothing super fancy, but enough to make sure that she’s included. She is not having her makeup done, but I did buy shimmery lip gloss that I’m giving to my makeup artist to apply on her–again, more so that she feels included…not because it NEEDS to be done.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@elliestan: Ha, I wish!!!  It’s not worth the drama of kicking her out, though… If it was just the mom, I’d kick her to the curb in a heartbeat, but Future Mother-In-Law manipulated my Fiance into having this lil princess in the wedding.  He’s not involved in all of this cattyness and ridiculousness, so he has no clue how bad it’s been…. I’d look like a total ‘Zilla if I kicked a 3 year old out of the wedding with just weeks to go.  They may be @holes, but they’re still his family and I don’t want to hurt his feelings or cause a rift between him and anyone else.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yes i agree………Its not necessary for flower girls to get their hairs done professionally………..I mean if they are small enough………And I think it depend upon your budget also……….Like if you can’t afford for flower girls hairs (obviously the big ones) you can tell them that if they want their hairs to be done professionally then they can arrange everything on their own………
And for small flower girls its something their moms can DIY…………..

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