(Closed) flower girl help

posted 13 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Remember, it’s your wedding.  It’s your choice if you want a flower girl or not.  Just let her  know that you (and your fiance?) have decided not to have one at all. 

Post # 4
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I definitely don’t think you need to have a flower girl just because you’re having a ring bearer. That’s pretty crazy. I think you’re supposed to pick children that are important to you (or that you at least know!!). I’m having my niece and nephew, but if there was only one, I would only have one… or none! It’s not a job that can just be filled by any schmoe off the street. Haha. Definitely put your foot down on this one.

Post # 5
508 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Yipes… sorry about the drama.  Take a deep breath and do what you want.  You do not have to have a flower girl.  Our niece will be just shy of 3 when our September wedding rolls around, so we decided it wasn’t worth the hassle of making her try and do something she may not have the engergy/attention span to handle.  Instead, she’ll be dressed up and allowed to wander around as an ‘honorary’ flower girl.

So, you don’t have to have one. For your Mother-In-Law, is she contributing to the wedding?  If so, it’s nice to give some input, but regardless of who is paying for it, it is a day for you and your Fiance, not for the parents as much.  Can you have your Fiance inquire about the flower girl with his mom?  Perhaps mention that since your other flower girl can’t make it, you’ve decided to go without? 

Post # 6
11 posts

i don’t think you need a flower girl… we’re having a flower girl but no ring bearer since there will not be any boys of appropriate age coming to our wedding. i worried about this for a bit, but then realized that you don’t have to do things just because convention says so.

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