Post # 1
Heres my situation. My fi’s younger sister who is 8, (isn’t a girlie girl, well shes pretty much a little boy with blonde hair!) is going to carry or rings at the ceremony. Shes going to wear a suit and match the groom. She isnt comfortable wearing a dress and told me she doesnt want too, so im not going to force her, and she looks cute in her suit! So with that said, should I have a flower girl (or boy? lol). My cousins daughter came to mind, but the problem is..is in the family we have alot of little girls from 3-6 so i feel like if i ask one, someone else will get offended that i didnt consider their little girl (and my mom agreed).
So what do the fellow bee’s think. An important part of the wedding? or can I do without?
Post # 3
I’m not having one…there’s just no girls in my family that age.
Post # 4
We are not having either as of right now for the reasons that you stated. Too many to choose from, we would end up with like 5 of each! The cost would be astronomical as well :/
Post # 5
I think it’s only important if you have a special little one (or ones) in your life you want to give that honor to.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I agree with PP. If there’s a special little girl in your life, totally have one. I have two amazing nieces, and I couldn’t have imagined not having them walk down the aisle.
But you certainly don’t have to if you don’t want to. Your ring bearer is kind of doing double duty anyway 🙂
Post # 7
I agree with the above PPs…only have one if you want one! We didn’t have a flower girl or a ring bearer. Also, keep in mind whether or not the parents of the kids that you have in mind want to bring them to your wedding! We would have asked one of my bridesmaids to have her 2ish year old daughter be the flower girl, but we figured that she didn’t really plan on bringing her, so we didn’t want to make her have to watch her all night at the wedding…you know?
Post # 8
I agree with the PPs as well. If there’s a special little one who fills the role, then great, but don’t have one (or 4 or 5) just to be fair and fill a spot. We’re having a ring bearer but not flower girl, and it’s no big deal. 🙂
PS- I think you’re awesome for letting FI’s sister wear a suit, some people would not be as kind.
Post # 9
You don’t need one. If you feel you need flowers have your “ring girl” carry the rings in something flowery.
Post # 10
@indibee: Thanks! I was telling my consultant who was helping me with my dress and someone overheard, they thought it was silly and her next stop will be becoming a man when shes older! I was so shocked!
Shes never been into dresses, and already has a suit from another wedding (she told me all about, has the black socks too lol). Im going to have her match her the groom but im not sure what to have her carry the rings in?
Post # 11
We’re not having a flower girl. I don’t really like the only girl it could be (is that completely wrong to not like a child???).