(Closed) Flower girl missing rehearsal

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 46
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12234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

fluffybiscuit:  If the bride is the sort of person who, for no other reason than staging, thinks it’s nice to exclude the rest of the family just because OP happens to have a child who is the right age to be a flower girl, then yes, she doesn’t have much sensitivity. 

It usually takes all of a few minutes  to rehearse the entire wedding. The Flower Girl can learn her part in seconds. The real reason for a rehearsal and dinner the night before is usually just as an excuse to entertain out of town guests. 

Post # 47
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1112 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

fluffybiscuit:  huh? Sorry i was disagreeing with you actually and wasn’t clear.

I mean the things you brought up can happen even with a rehearsal, so it’s ok if the fg misses the rehearsal. After all, it’s just walking in a straight line. they should arrive a little early the day of the wedding to practice. really, anything involves children is unpredictable. when a bride decides to have children in a wedding, she needs to accept that things may not go accordingly. 

Post # 48
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Worker bee

We intentionally did not invite our flower girls since it was a late rehearsal and dinner. They were only 3 and 4 and did just fine on the day.  Their mom was close by in case they froze up or something.

Post # 49
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Unless the 7-year-old is named Lizzie and she needs to go with Carol to look at the flowers, theres no way she is going to ruin anything. The worst that happens is she sits instead of standing or she has a 30-second freak-out before beng whisked way by her mother. Anyone who counts that as ruining a wedding should probably not have children in their damn wedding.

Post # 50
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

fluffybiscuit:  it seems to me you may not have as much experience with children as you might think you do. No matter how much practice or primping a child has, if they don’t want to do something or are not feeling it they do what they want. OP on the other hand has a child that is 7yrs old, which by this age they have a reasonable temperment to instruction. OP daughter has previous experience so she will pretty much know what to expect anyhow. furthermore even with a rehearsal you are missing all the guests which IMO is the biggest hang up for even the adults…so no one is exactly prepared until the day. 

Post # 53
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

cherryberrypie:  I haven’t been to any weddings where there has been time to rehearse the day of.

Post # 54
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I had a bridesmaid and fg miss the rehearsal because it just wasn’t practical for them (same family) to travel twice. No big deal. If the fg is walking first, just get a bm or someone to tell them when to start walking. To time it, we had my sister’s bf and brother in law join us in the rehearsal procession. Now that was a sight!

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