(Closed) Flower Girl Problems

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

My Flower Girl was 3 and walked with my Darling Husband (his goddaughter). It was SO cute!

Just let her walk with a grown-up, and she’ll be fine!

Post # 4
309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Maybe have her stay with her dad in the morning and show up at zero hour to get dressed and whatnot.

also maybe do a couple of “practice runs” with her getting dressed so she knows whats going on

and dear god, please, do NOT let her skip her nap the day of. I just went to a wedding where the Flower Girl skipped her nap cause she wanted to be around everyone and by the time the ceremony started, she was in full on meltdown mode. She only made it down the aisle cause her dad was literally crouched down at the end of the aisle waiting for her with ther blanket and teddy bear. She passed out immediately after.

Post # 6
1225 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My Flower Girl was 3 and spoke only French. We told her to hold my BM’s hand and her flowers and then when she got to the front of the church she could do sit with her Daddy (my BIL) She did exactly as we asked, despite having no clue what what going on really, and then had a nap on the way to the reception. She loved it.

Post # 7
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi @CanadianBride456:  first and foremost, I see this is your DEBUT Post on WBee, so a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”

I had a Flower Girl at my First Wedding (and a Ring Bearer)

The key I found was recognizing that they are a child (and hence why you want them there) cute as a button sometimes, others not so much

The main thing is to try and aim for the cute factor

That can ALWAYS be achieved thru Clothes… and the fact that they will be children and so no matter what they do, people will adore them on your big day

(Have you seen some of the Wedding Videos with kids on YouTube ???  Even at their worst they are priceless)

So you cannot worry about this too much unnecessarily…

What I would recommend is you make sure the little one is at the Rehearsal… at least then she’ll be “familiar” with the space (kids sometimes get overwhelmed by new things)

Day of, I’d have Dad mind her, until it is time to get dressed.

And Mom (a Bridesmaid) get her ready when the time is right.

At the Ceremony as she is 2 (and not older) it is probably best if she walks down the aisle holding Mom’s hand… just have that be the Bridesmaid or Best Man that heads down the aisle first…

And once they make it to the end of the aisle (alter area) have Mom hand her off to Dad for safe keeping.

Job done.

At my Wedding both the Child Attendants sat in the pews with their Parents.

We did “a few” pics with them after the Ceremony (as no one did First Looks back then)

As for dealing with Mom…

DON’T ASK HER… TELL HER what your plans are

Explain that it is to minimize stress on BOTH of you…

If she is a married lady who’s been thru the whole Wedding Day scenario, I am sure she’ll understand.

Hope this helps,

PS… Hoping that you did the “right thing” and offered to pay for all the expenses for the Flower Girl… the least you can do in return for the Parent letting you “borrow” her for the Wedding.


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