Hi @CanadianBride456: first and foremost, I see this is your DEBUT Post on WBee, so a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”
I had a Flower Girl at my First Wedding (and a Ring Bearer)
The key I found was recognizing that they are a child (and hence why you want them there) cute as a button sometimes, others not so much
The main thing is to try and aim for the cute factor
That can ALWAYS be achieved thru Clothes… and the fact that they will be children and so no matter what they do, people will adore them on your big day
(Have you seen some of the Wedding Videos with kids on YouTube ??? Even at their worst they are priceless)
So you cannot worry about this too much unnecessarily…
What I would recommend is you make sure the little one is at the Rehearsal… at least then she’ll be “familiar” with the space (kids sometimes get overwhelmed by new things)
Day of, I’d have Dad mind her, until it is time to get dressed.
And Mom (a Bridesmaid) get her ready when the time is right.
At the Ceremony as she is 2 (and not older) it is probably best if she walks down the aisle holding Mom’s hand… just have that be the Bridesmaid or Best Man that heads down the aisle first…
And once they make it to the end of the aisle (alter area) have Mom hand her off to Dad for safe keeping.
At my Wedding both the Child Attendants sat in the pews with their Parents.
We did “a few” pics with them after the Ceremony (as no one did First Looks back then)
As for dealing with Mom…
DON’T ASK HER… TELL HER what your plans are
Explain that it is to minimize stress on BOTH of you…
If she is a married lady who’s been thru the whole Wedding Day scenario, I am sure she’ll understand.
Hope this helps,
PS… Hoping that you did the “right thing” and offered to pay for all the expenses for the Flower Girl… the least you can do in return for the Parent letting you “borrow” her for the Wedding.