- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I realized I have a bit of a situation on my hands. Last year, after I got engaged, I asked my young cousin (who is now 8 years old) to be one of my flower girls. My cousin has always been hyperactive, but the last few occasions I saw her, she was horrendously behaved. For Thanksgiving, she literally did not even sit at the table for one minute quietly. When I saw her a few weeks ago, she had a full blown tantrum in my mother’s living room, and kicked my mom in the ribs. I totally agree that kids are kids, but I have worked with children, and I know is not exhibiting normal behavior for her age. I never remember acting in this manner at her age, nor did my brother, or any other cousins.
I have talked to my mom about this. She sees my cousin much more often than I do, and has said that basically, this has been her normal behavior. My mom does not believe she could be trusted to behave herself as a flower girl- and even more, sit through a 30 minute wedding ceremony without being a distraction, having a tantrum, etc.
I feel terrible, but basically, I think it is inviting major trouble for her to be a flower girl. My wedding is 5 months away, so I talked briefly about it to my little cousin, but nothing has been purchased. Honestly, I don’t see her behavior improving. She is being raised by her grandmother, who doesn’t seem to have much control over her, and I don’t think she would listen to me, either- she is just so obstinant. Am I right in taking control and deciding to go sans flower girl for my wedding? Has anyone else experienced similar difficulties?