(Closed) Flower Girl, Ring Bearer alternatives

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

It’s obviously up to what your priest will allow, but normally the presentation of gifts for the poor would come with the bread and wine after the homily, not at the processional.

Normally, the flower girl walks down the aisle holding flowers or a basket of flowers but doesn’t throw them (most churches – Catholic or not – that I’ve dealt with do not allow flower girls to throw petals for insurance reasons).

If you don’t want the ring bearer to carry the rings, you could omit him from the wedding or have him escort the flower girl. If he’s an alter server, you could have him perform those duties.

Post # 4
47 posts
  • Wedding: January 2011

Will you & the Mr. be doing the presentation of roses to The Blessed Mother?  If so, you can have the flower girl process with the roses, then hand them off when she gets to the front.  The ring bearer can escort her.  We will be doing the presentation to Mary, then give roses to the mothers and grandmothers, which brings us to a total of 6 roses for our flower girl to carry up the aisle.

Post # 5
126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

my church doesn’t allow tossing of rose petals, so we had our florist do an arrangement of flowers in her basket which she will just carry down the aisle.  If you don’t like the ring pillow idea, you can just have your ring bearer escort your flower girl down the aisle. 

Post # 6
23 posts
  • Wedding: August 2011

Do you already have your cross- and candle- bearers?  Of course, that won’t work for really young would-be flower girls and ring bearers, but if they are at the older end of the range, might be a good option.

Post # 7
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

flower girl can carry a pomander instead

Post # 8
436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

My niece carried a bell and I called her the bellringer. 

Post # 9
4123 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We can’t toss flowers because of mess and safety issues… The flower girls are getting a wand with streamers and flowers they can wave.

99.9% of people at any wedding don’t actually put the rings on the pillow. Some (if not using a pillow) will use a favorite mini sport ball with bow… or a treasure chest, etc… 

Post # 10
1518 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We are having the ring bearer carry a stuffed animal (a polar bear since that is the nickname my Fiance has for me) with the rings tied on around it’s neck with ribbon. And the flower girl is carrying something like this in the shape of a heart! 


Post # 11
597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I plan to have flower girl pass out roses from a basket. As she goes down the aisle, she reaches in and gets a rose(on a stem) and hands it to someone at the end of the aisle, every few feet…….

I have seen it on youtube on several videos of catholic weddings…its common 🙂

Post # 12
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We didn’t have ring bearers but our flower girl carried her own little bouquet. 

Post # 13
1025 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I had 6 of my little cousins in the wedding.

One was a flower girl – again, she didn’t throw petals but she carried a glass basket that my mom had carried in the wedding that had been given to her by her aunt. 

One was a ring bearer – he didn’t use a pillow, it was a book actually. And he did carry the real rings. He was 6 and we figured he could handle it.

One carried in the cross at the beginning and end.

One was a altar server.

Two carried in the gifts.

Also, the 3 younger girls passed out programs before the mass.

Post # 14
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I like KLP2010’s idea w/ the streamers – so cute!

I am not having a flower girl but I am having a ring bearer.  Our wedding is fall inspired and in October so the ring bearer is carrying down a small pumpkin and we will have the rings tied (very securely) to the pumpkin.

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