(Closed) Flower Girl/Ring Bearer

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Good age for a flower girl & ring bearer?
    2-3 Years : (7 votes)
    13 %
    4-6 Years : (31 votes)
    55 %
    7-9 Years : (15 votes)
    27 %
    10-12 Years : (3 votes)
    5 %
    Young Teens : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    3765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Mine were 6. Adorable and old enough to take their roles seriously.

    Post # 4
    1060 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’d say ages 4-8 is a good range. The kids are old enough to know what’s going on (and likely to co-operate) but still young enough that they are cute! Younger than 4 you risk the kid having a meltdown, not walking down the aisle, etc


    Post # 5
    8695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Pink Asawa:  I agree with this. My Maid/Matron of Honor has a son that is 3 and she wants him to be mt ringbearer and I told her no way bc he is too unpredictable and still does not listen well.

    Post # 7
    1060 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @erinbacher:  we never chose a ring bearer because there wern’t any little boys close enough to us in that age range. A friend wanted us to use their son but they aren’t that close to us and their kid is a trouble maker! You technically dont’t neeeeeed one. Alternatively, are any of the young ones’ parents in the bridal party? Maybe they could carry them up the aisle with them? Still gets in the cute factor without them having to behave lol

    Post # 8
    400 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    My Fiance and I each have a niece, at the wedding they’ll be four and a half and almost 2. If the almost 2 one (my niece) can’t do it at the last minute, at least we have another flower girl! And my ring bearer will be 7.

    Post # 9
    323 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Mine worked out well, I think. They will be 3 and 4 years old. Three can be a little tricky, but she’s a well-behaved, but very social little girl. I would say 4-7 is ideal. 2 is a little young and I’ve seen a few weddings where the young flower girl/ ring-bearer didn’t make it down the aisle. As far as too old, I would want to choose someone under 10, preferrably under 8. That’s just my preference though. It’s your wedding, so if you have a child close to you, choose who you want!

    Post # 11
    4272 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    My flower girl was 4. She did a great job. 🙂

    Post # 12
    1478 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

    My flower girl was 10 years old so I promoted her to junior bridesmaid. 10 in my opinion is way too old

    Post # 13
    1416 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    My flower girl was about 7 and my “ring bearer” (although he bore no rings, lol) was about 3. They were brother and sister (my cousins) and the older girl held the younger boy’s hand walking down the aisle and brought him directly to his mom, so he was fine. I think over 8 or 9 is a bit old for a flower girl, maybe more of a Jr. Bridesmaid at 10 or older? And as for too young, it depends on the child…my sister was able to walk down the aisle at 2 for a family wedding (holding my older brother’s hand and a teddy bear) with no problems, but I’ve seen 5 year olds have tantrums, it’s totally dependant on how well behaved the kid is, how well they walk, etc.

    Post # 14
    37 posts
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My ring bearer is 6. I have 3 flower girls-a 3 year old, a 6 year old and an 8 year old. The 3 year old may be a little bit of a wild card which is why I appointed the 8 year old as “Head” flower girl. I think she is more excited about this title than if I had made her a junior bridesmaid.

    Post # 15
    1118 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My flower girls were sisters, 6, 9 and 12. 12 was a bit old, but I had never met them before the wedding (DH’s friends) and they live across the country. We found a special role for her, carrying the sash for the pinning of the tartan. SIL is 15 and was a bridesmaid.

    Post # 16
    2196 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    I’d say 2-9. But it really depends on the kid! some kids could totally handle it at 2, but some would have a meltdown. Some 9 year olds would be adorable, some too mature.


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