Post # 1
My Fiance and I have been trying to round out our bridal party and we keep running into problems with our flower girls & ring bearers. I have two cousins who we see very often B a boy who will be 5 and P a girl who will be 2. I have two other cousins who I do not see very often E a girl who is 7 and S a boy who is 5. Fiance has two cousins who we do not see very often M a girl who is 7 and E a girl who is 4. We also have friends who have a son P who is 5 that we see often and Fiance really enjoys.
Age wise it would make the most sense to include the two oldest girls, however I feel bad not including their siblings. Honestly the two that we are closest to are my cousin B and our friend P both 5 year old boys.
I’m not sure if we should pick and choose, have them all, or have none.
What would you do in my situation? What are you doing for flower girls/ring bearers?
Post # 3
I think you should pick the ones that you think would do well with the responsibility and then get the other ones a small gift just to let you know that you are thinking of them, but are sorry that you could only pick (the number).
Post # 4
Well all or none would be the cleanest. But all sounds like too much to me. Sounds like it would be 4 FGs and 3 RBs. Ugg. I suppose if you’re OK with it, why not? But if it were me, and I felt that awkward about choosing, I would just have none.
As for choosing among them, do you think the cousins you don’t see would be understanding, or rather their parents? it might be OK to just exclude them, but it depends on family dynamics. I wouldn’t typically recommend excluding younger siblings only. But some of that depends on th kids’ personalities. Excluding the 2 yr old girl might fly. She’s too young to care. (And therefore the parents should understand. You could explain it’s alot of kids, and thought she’d never miss it.) However the 4 yr old girl will probably know she’s not included in something her 7 yr old sister is. (I have a 4 year old daughter.) If this girl is a “girly girl” she’ll most likely be disappointed. Boys are kind of a crap shoot as to whether or not they’ll care.