Post # 1
My mother (and her entire side of the family, including my two cousins who are in my bridal party and who I totally listen to and take advice from regularly) are really encouraging me to include my one cousin’s two year old daughter as a flower girl for our wedding. Nothing against this kid, she is adorable… absolutely a little doll, there’s no doubt about it… but she really is only two. I have never seen such a young kid try to walk down the aisle and I’m just so surprised that I’m the only one who thinks this is weird.
Part me of says, lighten up! Worst case scenario, she throws a fit, screams, and her cute little self immediately gets scooped up by her mom or her grandma (my aunt) and everyone sort of laughs because that’s what people do when little ones freak out. But another part of me says, take this more seriously. The ceremony is in a church, it’s a serious sacrament, and if you’re anticipating her to not cooperate and potentially hold up the mass, then she shouldn’t be included.
Has anyone ever seen a flower girl this young? Like a flower baby? And what are your thoughts? Really bad idea? Or so not a big deal?
Post # 3
I haven’t seen a flower baby, but my sister had a ring baby 😀 Her son was about 9 months old at the wedding. Her solution was to have my cousin (8 at the time) pull a wagon with her son in it down the aisle.
Could you find another girl a bit older to walk down with your flower baby?
Post # 4
Our flower girls are the same age. They’re very excited, just try doing stuff like telling them its a princess day or something. We watch them all the time, and we pretend their hallway is an aisle and with fake flowers have them throw them. Its sooo great and its really cute because they’re so young they walk well, but sometimes they try to pick the petals back up or they run out so they take them from the others basket. Personally I think a 2 year old is great.
Post # 5
My 18 month old sister (yeah, sister, 25 year age difference!!) will be 2 1/2 next year at my wedding, and she’s my flower girl. I think it will be so cute! I happen to be really laid back about it though, and would think it was funny if she did something silly or unconventional. My ring bearer will only be 3, so I think they will be totally adorable walking down the aisle together (or running…or skipping…or somersaulting lol)
Post # 6
I’m a 2 yr old teacher and one of my kids was just recently a flower girl. She shared the duties with a 4 yr old and it worked out just fine. I think it depends on the personality of the little one. Is she okay in large groups? with strangers? does she like to be the center of attention? If yes then you’re probably okay but if she doesn’t do well in large groups I’d say either have her escorted by someone or leave her out.
Post # 7
I would be concerned about a 2 year old. I’ve seen two 3 year old ring bearers before, at separate weddings. At one, the little boy RAN screaming down the aisle and clung to his mother who was waiting up front. The poor mother had to miss the whole ceremony trying to comfort him. The second one, the little boy simply refused to budge. The music was going on and on and we were waiting, and nothing was happening. Apparently the only people left back there were the bride and her father, and the stubborn ring bearer. The bride and her father couldn’t leave him there alone, but they didn’t want to go out and get his mother either, because the processional had already begun, so they just kept trying to get him to go. After about 3 of 4 minutes (which felt really really long) the boy’s mother left the congregation and went to investigate. She brought him back with her, and then the bride and her father were finally free to enter.
So yeah, I’m of the opinion that no one that young should be walking alone. A little one pulled by an older child is ok, but I wouldn’t ask anyone under age 5 to walk alone.
Post # 8
A friend of mine had her 18 month niece as a flower girl at her wedding. She walked late (in my opnion as my daughter was running at 10 months). so they were really trying to encourage her to walk in the weeks leading up to the wedding. In the end she walked down the aisle holding the hand of an older page boy. It was adorable, so nice that she was able to be included as were other close members of the family.
I have also seen babies in wagons/strollers that have been all prettied up with flowers and fabric.
My daghter will be about 3 and a half when we get married. Both my FIs parents passed away many years ago, and he doesnt really have any close family. So she will be standing beside him as his Best Girl – giving her Daddy to her Mummy. I can’t wait for the day, but am still searching for the perfect dress for her to wear.
Post # 9
My niece will have just turned 3 the month before the wedding. Fiance and I are already joking that she will run out of pedals and go back and pick them up!!! I think little ones are just adorable at that!
Post # 10
My nephew was 18 months old at my brothers wedding and almost 20 years later it’s still one of my favorite memories…..him toddling down the aisle!!!
Post # 11
It’s really up to you as to how comfortable you are with the chance of her having a meltdown. Two year olds are extremely unpredictable. At my husband’s cousin’s wedding there was a two year old flower girl and a 4 year old flower girl. The 2 year old screamed bloody murder the whole way down the aisle and had to be dragged by her 4 year old cousin. It happens.. no matter how well behaved the kids are. If you are OK with this possibility, then go with it… but if the thought of that really upsets you, then just have her sit in the pew with her family and don’t risk it.
Post # 12
I don’t think a 2 year old is a baby. For my cousin’s wedding his wife’s niece and some other random distant relative’s daughter were between 2 and 3 years old and the ring bearer was about 5. The idea was for the 3 of them to walk down together with the ring bearer taking the lead. In the end, one girl never made it down the aisle and both of them napped through photos but they were cute and not really problimatic. The bride’s dad was seated in the second row and the flower girl (granddaughter) was diverted to him before making it to the alter. She enjoyed the ceremony with grandpa and a few crayons and I don’t remember if she walked back down the aisle. As long as you realize they may give up/fall asleep/cry I don’t think 2 is too young for a flower girl. They are also adorable at that age and will have fun wearing a new dress!
Post # 13
I am having my 2 year old and 10 month old nieces as my flower girls. The plan is to put them both in a wagon and have one of the ushers pull them down the aisle. I’m decorating the wagon with Tulle and putting a sign on the back that says “Here Comes the Bride.” If they are sleepy or cranky the day of the wedding then they can just skip going down the aisle – they’ll still be in their pretty dresses for pictures!
Post # 14
I think they key to having such young ones is just being flexible. My neice (who will be 2 by our wedding) is one of 3 flowergirls but if she walks down the aisle that’s great… if not, that’s ok too. Either way we’ll get some cute pics of her in her dress. 🙂 My friend’s neice was 2 on her wedding… she ended up walking down the aisle to her grandmother who brought her back to the pew to color. That said, do what’s comforable for you – it’s your wedding!!
Post # 15
@babyboo: yes…I totally agree with your ideas!
Post # 16
My 18 month old niece will be our flower girl. Her mom (FI’s sister) will walk with her down the aisle if need be, or let her go on her own if she’s up for it. She’s going to look SO cute – I can’t wait. 🙂