(Closed) Flower girls – not bridesmaids

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Do I make friends flower girls?

    good move?

    bad move?

  • Post # 3
    1423 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I’m confused. Why not just make those two friends bridesmaids? Unless these friends are 10 or under, I don’t see what is accomplished. You’re still selecting two people out of your circle of friends to be in your wedding party.

    Post # 4
    11734 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If your friends are over the age of like 9 or 10 I don’t think they should be flower girls – I would find it highly offensive to be called a flower girl as a grown woman.  Why can’t you make them all bridesmaids?  It’s okay to have an uneven number of BMs than Groomsmen.  I would personally just eliminate the two you would consider a flower girl.

    Post # 5
    2080 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @getting_hitched:  What’s too many? In my opinion, it’s your wedding and you can have as many bridesmaids as you like. I’ve seen weddings with 20 bridesmaids. I’m not sure how an adult would feel about being a flowergirl but you could always ask.  I just always think of flowergirls as children but I’m considering having my dog as the flowergirl so the sky’s the limit.

    Post # 6
    9916 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Why not just narrow down your bridesmaid choices? 

    Post # 7
    1304 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would be offended if a friend askwed me to be a flower girl.

    If you don’t want uneven sides, a possibility is to have them do readings during the ceremony, so they are still involved.

    Another possibility is to put and BM’s related to your Fiance on his side (like if his sister HAS to be in the wedding party…well, she can stand on his side)

    Post # 8
    3616 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    As a grown woman, if I was asked to be a flower girl I would be insulted. Maybe they can be ushers or guest book attendants instead of bridesmaids?

    Post # 9
    1111 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Ditto what PPs said – and I’ll add that it’s okay to not include every friend you have in your bridal party.  It’s a tough choice, I know, but it happens.  I have a very good friend who is not one of my bridesmaids (though I am one of hers in her upcoming wedding), and I have had good friends for whom I haven’t been a bridesmaid.  Don’t worry about giving every single person you’re close to a special role.  They can be honored to just be guests, too!

    As for the specific question, I would never want to be a flower girl as a grown woman.  I’d rather be a reader, an usherette, or simply a guest.

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