(Closed) Flower Girls…how many is TOO many??

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should I let my Mom get away with selecting 6-8 flower girls for my wedding?
    No way, that is way too many : (45 votes)
    73 %
    Yes, it wont hurt anything : (7 votes)
    11 %
    Try to compromise and talk her down to 4 flower girls : (10 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    2095 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    So you have FI’s nieces in the wedding and that is it. Exlpain to your mother that this way none of the cousins can get upset since none of them were chosen. If it is his nieces then it might look like you are trying to appease his family which will score you brownie points.

    Post # 4
    515 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    In the end of the day you need to do what YOU want. Not your mom. Im sorry but if someone wishes you bad luck on your wedding day because they are selfish enough to think their child should be in your wedding party that isn’t someone Im going to go out of my way to accommodate. i think having the nieces in the wedding is good and like the previous poster said to tell your mom that is what you are doing. Im sorry you are going through this and I hope you can find a solution you can be at peace with. 

    Post # 6
    6597 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think you need to put your foot down with your mom now! This probably won’t be the last of the issues!

    If I were you – neices and nephews come before cousins. So have your FIs neices as flower girls and leave it at that. Then you don’t even have to choose between your cousins!

    Post # 7
    23 posts
    • Wedding: April 2012

    What if you gave the older girls a different “job” I have twin 13 yr old cousins and they are going to be hostess/ushers for our wedding. They will get to participate in everything (except bacholarette party) and they will have their own dresses and flowers, but they wont be actually in the wedding party.

    Post # 8
    46421 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I was just going to say that your Mom sounds like a people pleaser, but it’s been said.

    You do not have to have every little girl in your near and distant family in your wedding.

    Unless you are having a grand wedding a la Kate and William, I think 6-8 flower girls would look a little ridiculous.

    Post # 9
    2891 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I have seen it done. The girls were all dressed as fairies and they tossed petals with abandon. I think that wedding had 7 FlowerGirls. The dfference is that they got to the end of the aisle and exited stage left. They were taken to the church basement to play till it was time for pictures then sent home.No muss no fuss, just sugar and spice and everything nice. They also had 5 ringbearers as elves.They exited stage right. If this gets pushed on you I recommend this plan and an amazing babysitter.

    Post # 10
    1489 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @HisWifey2012: 6-8 is alot for me but it is your wedding so you should be able to do what you would like


    Post # 11
    2103 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    My aunt had like 6 little flowergirls at her wedding last year. It was a small wedding, so it was a bit much to me to have all those folks standing up in front of the room. If they walk down together and not individually then I don’t think it’s a big deal.

    Post # 12
    2539 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    6-8 is alot…i voted trying talking her down to 4. i have a HUGE family and this is the first wedding in out family also and we have alot of little princess’ running around. we are going with 3 flowergirls….

    at the end of the day do what you want…its your day!

    Post # 15
    5763 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I’d think the neices trump the cousins, so that’s what I’d do. I can’t even imagine trying to get the opinions of all the Mothers of all those little girls when picking their dresses! They will never agree. Make it easy on yourself.

    Post # 16
    2889 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would let them all be flower girls. Little girls love that sort of thing so it’s not just your mom or their parents that will be hurt. I think the idea of them walking in and then downstairs is great. Alternatively, sit their parents in the second or third row and have them just sit with thier parents through the ceremony. I still remember not being a flower girl in my aunt’s adult only wedding and was so upset as a 6 year old. Also, if your BMs are sitting during the ceremony you could pair the older FGs with a Bridesmaid or Best Man and they will most likely be on thier best behavior as they are beign trusted to sit with the big girls. I was in a wedding where I was in charge of the 11 y.o. Jr. Bridesmaid or Best Man and she was trying so hard to please the bride (her half sister) who trusted her to be a Jr. Bridesmaid or Best Man instead of a Flower Girl and let her sit with the BMs.

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