(Closed) Flowergirl issues… not having because her mum will annoys me?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
7719 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Del_M:  I was once told that flower girls should be at least 4. And after my (then) 3 year old was a Flower Girl, I agree. She got nervous and didn’t walk down the aisle when she was meant to.

You don’t owe it to anyone to have her as Flower Girl. She’s too young to really remember it. You’ve already said no. If she’s at the wedding, she can still dress up and be in the family photos. I say stick with your original plan and have no Flower Girl.

Post # 4
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Del_M:  NO! Your stessed enough. Im not having a flower girl or ring bearer. My Dog might be the ring bearer lol.

Post # 5
499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It’s up to you, but it may be a nice gesture, but if you think it is too much of a pain on the day off, then dont worry about it.

We had 2 flower girls, DH’s niece and my dad’s God daughter, one was 3 and the other was 4. The 3 year old is really shy and didnt make it down the aisle for the rehearsal but the morning off she came over to my house nice and early and hung out with the bridal party and the other flower girl and was so excited to walk down the aisle, she was not a hassle at all. After the ceremony, the flower girls went to their respective parents, who they were with for the rest of the night except for a couple of photos for a few minutes.

Darling Husband on the other hand was a ring bearer for his aunts wedding when he was 3, over 23 years ago and still remembers and cherishes that moment. It still does mean a lot to him, myself on the other hand – i was a flower girl in probably 7 different weddings and it all started to smush together. I still remember most of them and remember how excited I was.

Post # 7
1828 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Del_M:  Just remember that she will probably grow quite a bit in the next 6 months.

Post # 8
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think at three it every much depends on the child. Some are mature enough to do it, others may not.


That being said just because English is the mom second language doesn’t mean that she can’t or doesn’t understand what is socially acceptable. If SHE is that way it’s because of HER personality, or perhaps things are done differently where she from and she finds you and your ideas just as socially unacceptable.


Anyhow moving if you don’t want them don’t have them, but I think you are stressing out unnecessarily as it’s really not that complicated. You pick out a dress, she pay for it, and shows up with her daughter clean and on time for pictures.

Post # 9
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Our flowergirl was three, and she did an AMAZING job! (Just let her practice while the guests file in)


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