(Closed) Flowers..At the end of the day, did you care? Did guests notice? Was it worth it

posted 7 years ago in Flowers
Post # 2
160 posts
Blushing bee

I’m where you are trying to decide what to spend on flowers. I thought back to the weddings I’ve been to and really can only remember the centerpieces from 1 which is the one I went to once I started my own wedding planning. They were very simple, but the wedding had 400 guests so I’m sure the whole floral budget was large.   

Post # 3
6478 posts
Bee Keeper

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stefano101:  I’ll preface this by saying that my wedding was quite some time ago. (Not sure that matters, but just in case.)

We had floral centerpieces, but they were very low and unstructured. Our wedding was during the day, and our reception had a very casual and laid-back sort of feeling to it, which made the unstructured arrangements work out perfectly. For the tables, I didn’t much care what types of flowers were used. I had low, square vases for them and told our caterer that I wanted a certain shape for them.

My bridal bouquet, my bridesmaids flowers (much simpler bouquets), the corsages for the moms, and the bouts for all the guys … Those flowers I cared about. I was really particular in what I wanted, and I put most of my flower budget into them.

I don’t regret this at all, even all these years later. I still look back at pictures of my bouquet and think about how beautiful it was and how much I loved it. Ditto with the other “special” flowers. For the centerpieces on the tables, I didn’t  notice them much, other than to think about how they had come out nicely. No one from the wedding ever commented on the table decorations (other than to as if they could have the vases — lol). So I took that to mean that the flowers were OK, overall.

Post # 4
5986 posts
Bee Keeper

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stefano101:  Truth be told  I can’t remember the flowers at the last four weddings I’ve attended 🙁 Maybe cut the costs of the flowers.

Post # 5
354 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I don’t ever make it a point to remember or notice flowers but I always do remember center pieces.  I thought out flowers were totally worth it.  Our sweetheart table alone was breathtaking!  So many black heart roses.   I loved it.  Not sure if anyone else cared or noticed or remembers but I sure do!   So worth it!

Post # 6
1559 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I like flowers, they’re pretty… but I wasn’t willing to shell out tons of money on something that was just going to die in a couple days.  The only flowers at my wedding were our bouquets (and the BMs just had 4 white hydrangeas and a couple of these little grey ball things) and the guys’ bouttineres (sp?).  My mom bought a couple very small little arrangements to put on the table with the photos of our grandparents.  That was it.


No one even noticed, no one cared.  I was going for a classy elegance feel anyways, and I tend to think of flowers as more romantic/sweet which wasn’t really what I was going for.  We had big candelabras as center pieces with mercury glass votives… silver table cloths and a gorgeous silver back drop. Didn’t need flowers at all.  Don’t waste your money on anything you might regret!

Post # 7
5136 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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stefano101:  Flowers were actually really important to me but I didnt want to spend an arm and leg on them bc at the end of the day, they just get thrown out!!

We didn’t want to spend more than $3K on flowers and we actually got an amazing deal. We paid $2800 for 17 tall centerpieces, 4 BMs bouquet, cascading bridal bouquet, 1 flower girl basket, 8 boutineres, 3 corsages, 2 baskets for the church and they decorated the pews with tulle and flowers, oh and the did an arrangement for our sweetheart table. I do have pictres of the flowers, my photographers were great at getting detail shots.


I dont regret it, we had the reception in a huge ball room with high ceilings so we needed high cebterpieces. Like you, I hd a vision of what I wanted. At first I wanted candelabras but the venue wouldnt allow it bc flowers have caught on fire before! So I found something else, you can see it in the pictue but my centerpieces had a spir from the base up, and along the spiral were tea candles that stayed lit the entire night.


I actually got a lot of compliments on them, and a lot of guests took home the flowers! Lol

Post # 8
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Flowers are really important to ME. I don’t really care if anyone notices them or remembers them because I’m getting them strictly for me haha I love flowers! I don’t plan on breaking the bank for them as I would rather splurge on the dessert buffet for my giuests so I’m adding lots of candles to my tables. With the lights turned down low candles look fantastic and they’re a great alternative to flowers.


I dont think any guest cares about the decor they just want to have a good time and I try keep that in mind so that I don’t go overboard on the little things like napkin rings, gold leaf chargers.. etc. 

Post # 9
684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I was SO not into the flowers. I was like, just make it look nice. My florist knew that but she was SUCH a pain in the ass. She is the wife of one of our groomsmen so being a friend of ours I tolerated her. The flowers were beautiful and we got a lot of nice comments, but it would have been nice if she had not been so high maintenance. Flowers are nice, beyond that I honestly did not care.

Post # 10
3625 posts
Sugar bee

I only notice when the Bridal Party is walking down the aisle and when I first enter the venue,honestly. I guess I should also say I notice when they are annoyingly in the way on an already crowded table.

Post # 11
2155 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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stefano101:  We had random centerpieces, flowers in simple vases as one of them. It’s a nice touch, but I didn’t spend a lot of money on them. To be honest, I barely remember what they look like so I doubt that my guests remember them.

To me, it wasn’t worth tons of money. I would rather have pictures and a fun story at the tables. That’s more memorable than flowers.

Post # 12
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I really did not care about the flowers which was a good thing considering they weren’t in my budget anyways lmao. 

I went with manzanita branches & a few silk flowers at the bottom. when we were buying the silk flowers for the centerpieces we found these gorgeous bundles of ivory roses, I bought them at $7 a piece wrapped ribbon around it and called it a day. Your guests are really not going to notice, they’re just there for a good time! I got plenty of compliments on my Centerpieces even though they werent anything near what I sometimes see posted on here.

Post # 13
793 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I remember if its something that stands out but, most weddings I’ve been to have all been lower budget than mine and mines real low and they just had things like  real basic cases with flaying candles etc. but their have been some truy beautiful ones I have remembered

Post # 14
6297 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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stefano101:  I’m also a wedding photographer, I too rarely remember centerpieces, unless it’s really creative. I tend to notice overall decor and outstanding lighting (obviously, as a photographer, ambient light is like gold). I opted for non-floral centerpieces because it was more important for me to spend the money in other areas of details.

Post # 15
134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I love flowers, but I think where a lot of people break the bank is when they get those huge gaudy centerpieces, which is not my taste. We spent about $3,500 on flowers but that also included a chuppah with a lot of floral elements on it. We only had low centerpieces but they were filled with peonies, hydrangea, anemones, ranunculus, and garden roses. Honestly I think it was well worth the money spent -several people did notice and tell us they thought they were amazing, plus we also saw a few people post photos of them on facebook.

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