Post # 1
I’m avoiding fresh flowers on the day of my wedding. Its one less thing to worry about, I reason, and I can premake beautiful arrangements in wooden flowers and or silks (I already have supplies for both). But, something in the back of my mind says: don’t go silk for the presentation to Mary – its demeaning. The other side of me says, I am pretty sure our blessed mother isn’t going to judge an offering based on if its fresh or silk. So, what do you think. Do you think its disrespectful to the blessed mother to give her a silk or wood rose bouquet?
Post # 3
By the way, these silks and wooden roses are not cheap. Don’t get me wrong, they will be the same cost as fresh or more when I am done…So, I didnt “cheap out” by using the alternative…
Post # 4
i think any offering made with love is acceptable, but i’d just have someone swing by walmart and pick up one of those cheap fresh flower bouquets. it’ll probably be cheaper than silks/woodens.
Post # 5
I am not Catholic, so this wasn’t an issue for us; and I don’t think it would be “tacky” to leave an offering of silk or wood flowere, but honestly, if it were me, I would go for the real flowers. Real flowers go back into the earth, so I beleive they would be a better offering because in my mind they would be closer to her. I can’t explain very good what I mean. I just think real flowers would be better.
Post # 6
I don’t think it’s tacky. A lot of times around May you will see statues of Mary decorated with wreaths made out of silk flowers anyway. If you want to do something fresh, a premade bouquet like @elliesta suggested would work.
Post # 7
@evalague: Have you checked with your church? Most Catholic churches in our area aren’t okay with non-fresh flowers, but awesome for you if you’ve found an exception! 🙂
Post # 8
@peaches13: The church does not include a comment about silk or fresh in our wedding packet which I have read 100 times (and I’d rather ask for forgiveness than permission for anything not covered). The only mention was that the petals down the aisle can only be white if they are real or they MUST be silk. So already they prefer silk to fresh. They do ban real candles so I had to use LED. They have a preferred florist (a parishoner) but I told them I am decorating myself and they were suprised but didn’t object either. We are under another diocese (Eastern Rite Catholic) what the other churches allow and don’t allow is never an indicator of the rules here… Thanks….
Post # 9
@evalague: Gotcha. I assumed that you were Roman Catholic…we all know what happens when you assume… I would think in that case, then, the wooden roses in particular would be lovely, as Mary’s spouse was a carpenter. 😉
Post # 10
Something that my hubby and I did was give the Blessed Mother a (real) flower bouquet, symbolizing all of the deceased members of our family. So we had a bouquet made, which the flower girl carried up during the procession, and put in a vase. The bouquet had 10 flowers, one representing each person we wanted to memorialize during the Mass. It was our way of including them in the Mass and more importantly our way of asking for Our Lady to intercede for them.
So, just to give my opinion: the Blessed Mother, the woman who bore the Savior of the world, deserves real flowers. 🙂