(Closed) FMIL and FSIL chaos….

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Sheryl0013:  I’m sorry you are going through this but when you say “obviously regardless of what happens we will invite his parents”

Well,  there really is nothing obvious about that. Why would you?! Future Mother-In-Law sounds mental and exactly like she’s going to cause a scene. Do really want to, either of you?

Can you elope? Have a kick ass party when you return. With huge doormen and if anyone starts anything they are straight out. And don’t invite the sister, shes a narcissistic little pain in the ass! 

Good luck!!!

Post # 4
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805 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@RedJezabel:  THIS!

Do not get your wedding ruined by this craziness!

Post # 5
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Sheryl0013:  Personally I would not invited the parents nor the sisters. I know it would cause a rift but seriously you can’t loose what’s already been lost. They both sound insane and would probably not come to just “spite” you.

Post # 7
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1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You should not be dreading your wedding day! This is supposed to be one of the happiest days of your life.

If I were you, I would talk about your concerns with your fiance’s father, since he seems to be the only reasonable one on that side of the family. Explain why you don’t want his sister and mother at the wedding and see what he says. I would NOT invite the sister – you and fiance both don’t want her there so she doesn’t get to come. I would also tip off your wedding coordinator or security or whoever will be running the event on the day of. If your Future Mother-In-Law starts any drama, she should be asked to leave. Don’t let her ruin your big day!

 

Post # 8
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839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I agree with PPs, I personally wouldn’t invite either of them. They sound like lunatics. They clearly don’t want to be a part of your life, so give them that. Don’t invite them, and after what they have said to you, they should have no reason to expect to be invited. Your Future Mother-In-Law TOLD your Fiance to choose between the two of you, and obviously he is choosing you, so don’t invite either of them. 

I would talk to your Future Father-In-Law about it. He sounds like the only person in that family that isnt insane, so he should understand. If you have to invite your Future Mother-In-Law, you do NOT have to invite your Future Sister-In-Law, and if I were in your situation, I absolutely would not invite her, even if I did invite the Future Mother-In-Law. They need to realize that they are causing problems for themselves, not just for you and your Fiance.

Post # 9
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4284 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t know what the right answer is, but I am so sorry that you have to deal with this! I am glad your Darling Husband is on your side though!

Post # 10
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808 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

If I were you, I’d elope and spend your wedding money on a honeymoon. No matter what you do, these people will do their best to RUIN your wedding. Could you go to the courthouse with your parents & his dad?

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I personally would not invite the Future Mother-In-Law or the Future Sister-In-Law. I simply do not believe in obligatory guests. If Fiance wants them there, I would respect his wishes – on the condition that security of some sort would be there to remove these “ladies” if they become disruptive.

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