(Closed) FMIL and FSIL issue help!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

First things first:

So if Future Mother-In-Law is this abusive, why haven’t you called child services yet? If it’s really that bad,  you need to get that little girl out of there!!

Secondly, unfortunately the girl is 11. Her mom has a right to say if her daughter can or cannot go to a wedding. You need her approval for that. She could come back and say that her daughter was kidnapped by you guys and she would have reason if you don’t go through her.

If you really don’t want to go over there and speak with your Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law in person, I don’t think there’s much you can do. The only way to make sure that the little girl hears what you’re saying and what your Future Mother-In-Law is saying is for you to say it in person.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2004

I’m sorry, she sounds awful.  I’ve had zero contact with my mom for a few years, I can’t imagine how much more complicated it is with a younger sibling still at home.

With that said, you cannot do this to his little sister.  His mom will either refuse to let her be part of things or ‘allow’ it and make lilttle sister’s life hell for ‘choosing’ your Fiance.  She’s a child and doesn’t deserve any of that.  I really think you need to attempt a minimal relationship with his mom for access to his sister (not at all saying you should do this) or accept that she won’t be part of the wedding and try to maintain the relationship with her in other ways.

I hope it works out, I have so much empathy for your Fiance & his siblings, crazy moms are the worst.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Did you post about this awhile back or what, because I’m definitely having daja vu.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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ksn1219:  me too!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Good luck I hope it works out.I wouldn’t bother with her as a bridesmaid because it’s going to be tough to get there there at all.

Husbands mum is almost exactly the same. She said little brother (8could come) and that his sister could take him to the wedding. I was so excited. Less than a week before the wedding she changed her mind and he couldn’t come. Husband knew that would happen but because I have never met her I really didn’t want to believe she would be so heartless.

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