Post # 1
So my Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law found out I had a Bridal Shower last weekend and called my FI;s best man (who doesnt drink or party or drive for that matter- he has really bad vision) and told him to plan a bachalor party. Long story short They are planning it now!!! I think is it GROSS!!! It is super ODD, WIERD whatever Now my Fiance thinks I am upset he is having a party. I could care less about the party!!!!! I just think it is SUPER GROSS his mom and sister are throwing it and going to it!!!!! When I compared it to my dad and brother taking to see male strippers he got grossed out!!!! But he doesnt think its odd about HIS mom and sister!!!!! Backstory THEY HATE ME and have been NASTY this whole wedding planing process and he said that at least they are being postive about somthing for the wedding….. UMMM the WRONG PART!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Am I over reacting or is this weird??? Please help it is causing stress!!!!!
Post # 2
Given that it will have no direct effect on you whatsoever, I would just let it go. Not worth stressing yourself about.
Post # 3
You do know that not all bachelor parties inlcude strippers right? Have you actually confirmed there are going to be strippers there? He should be welcome to have a bachelor party and you should be supportive of it. His mom and sister obviously don’t want him to miss out on something, that the best man is not capable of doing. How nice of them to help out.
You sound like you are really overreacting. Why wasn’t his mother or sister invited to your bridal shower?
Post # 4
ummmmmm talk about awkward. If I were fi I would say NO NO NO! If it were reversed there’s no way in HELL I’d let my dad and brother plan my bachelorette…..but honestly if there were planning it there would be like barbie, kittens and rainbow decorations and we would probably sit around and watch the little mermaid (because they are very protective and want to still believe I’m a sweet little innocent child for the rest of my life). BUT it’s super weird his mom and sister are planning his last single guy activity. Confident my mom would plan the WORST bachelor party EVER for my brother. He would NEVER allow her to.
Post # 5
Have to admit to laughing at the image of my Fiance hanging out with his mum at his bachelor party. Honestly, this is a bit strange, but certainly not the big deal you seem to be turning it into. Let it go, it’s so not worth the histrionics.
Post # 6
Seems like an odd thing to get so worked up about.
Post # 7
If there are strippers involved then I would think it was pretty strange, but other than that meh? if ur Fiance does not mind than you shouldn’t either, I would be kinda hurt if I was him that none of the other groomsmen stepped up to help plan and that his mom and sister had to do it. Kinda embarrassing for him if anything but its a sweet gesture on their part. Although I do think it’s strange they are going to attend, they should just plan it for him and his friends. But hey as pp said this has no effect on you so move on.
Post # 8
A bachlor party doesn’t have to have strippers… and it doesn’t have to have to be gross or have a sex theme. Mine didn’t and neither did DH’s.
I think you need to calm down. You’re not going and your Fiance doesnt care so why do you?
And I don’t see how them not liking you would have anything to do with this
Post # 9
My husband didn’t have strippers at his bachelor party and neither did most of my guy friends. Most of them had a camping weekend to drink beer, smoke cigars, and be dudes. I think the old the crowd gets the less likely it is that there will be strippers. I would find out what the party actually will entail before thinking it’s gross.
Post # 10
What I find more weird is that your Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law weren’t invited to your Bridal Shower…
Post # 11
Now if Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law are the strippers…. RUN.
RUN FAR AWAY.
You don’t want to marry into THAT FAMILY.
Post # 12
I mean… it’s odd that’s for sure.
But, it doesn’t involve you really so if your Fiance is fine with it, I guess you should just roll with it. I mean, it’s his party so its his deal if he’s fine with his mom and sister there.
Post # 13
My friend pretty much planned her brother’s bachelor party because the best man and groomsman were from out of town. It was just beer and bowling. Not all bachelor parties are strippers and debauchery.
Post # 14
I am my brother’s “best woman” I am hoping to not be too involved in planning his bachelor party because I would rather it be a guy thing for him since that is more traditional and that his friends plan it because they would probably know better what would be best for the party but I will probably be somewhat involved with planning the bachelor party, at least making sure others are planning it and probably know what the plans are and maybe have some input. I don’t really think that it is weird and gross just because I’m a woman for me to help plan this traditional event for my brother.
Post # 15
I would totally plan a bachelor party for my brother if I had to. I don’t think it’s a big deal. As others have said, a bachelor party doesn’t need to include strippers.