(Closed) FMIL and SIL Problems :/

posted 6 years ago in Family
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  • Post # 2
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

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    jmtwxoxo:  not your circus, not your monkeys. 

    That said, can you hire a minder for your nephew?  would keep him under control and allow your mil to enjoy the wedding. 

    Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Count it as a blessing if your Future Sister-In-Law is not attending bc who needs her, though she should have simply declined instead of talking about you the way she did. Do you have to invite the nephew, at this point? If so then I agree you probably should get someone to look after him. What a sucky situation for you!

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    my mom isn’t going to your wedding but I’m going to go with my aunt ___ and uncle___”

    Whilst I think it pretty awful to send your 8 year old child to  to a wedding  you will not be at yoruself,  ( and seriously rude not to RSVP properly anyway)  doesn’t it mean that  the uncle and aunt will therefore be responsible for  the child if this eventuates  ?  I’m a bit confused as to who they are actually, another of your FI’s siblings and spouse ? In which case  they would just naturally look after the child, their nephew   wouldn’t they ? 

    As pps have said, you are frankly  better off if Future Sister-In-Law  doesn’t come. What about her  husband incidentally,  is he not coming either? All this seems to be  on the say-so of an 8 year old ,  not the most reliable  interpreters of complicated situations……..altho I was kind of impressed he knew his uncle’s mother was also his grandmother. He said ‘my mom hates your mom , not my  mom hates grandma’ !  

    so I’m thinking all of this may not happen. I’d just hang on for a bit and see what pans out . Maybe get Fi to clarify a bit , its his sister .

     

    Post # 6
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    Honey bee

    Yep, time to declare it an adult only wedding. Sending an un-supervized 8 year old is not a good idea. If the kid’s aunt/uncle bring him, they’ll also bring their 11 year old son:”They have an 11 year old son and they let him get away with anything and never disipline him.” That sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. Good luck!

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I’m gonna go against the grain here and advocate for your 8 year old nephew. I find it fairly obvious that he’s going to your wedding, not out of family obligation (“my mother made me come”) but because he actually wants to. He’s well aware of the family dynamics at play and yet here he is a kid who lacks a father figure and positive couple role models asking to be present at your union. I’d totally welcome the kid with open arms (let him get into trouble with the other cousin if it comes to that) and give him a NORMAL, loving, family oriented and drama free day. So he’ll eat all of the candy…nobody will notice. So his grandmother and/or other aunts and uncles will have to keep an eye on him…that’s normal. I say let the kid be there to witness his uncle and bride get married and have a good time with his family instead of the drama he usually sees. Who knows, he might turn out to be your favorite nephew at some point in life. 

    Your FSIL? F*ck her. Not worth your time. 

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