(Closed) FMIL asked if we wanted money for the wedding

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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5183 posts
Bee Keeper

oh my… I think you should apologize to your Future Mother-In-Law. I think your assumption that she couldn’t contribute because you guys are more financially stable than she is is kind of presumptious and prob plain out rude. She wants to contribute to her son’s wedding and you kind of threw it in her face. 

Post # 4
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1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would see if you could work it into a future conversation and let her know that you appreciate her offer of money and that you are more than happy to accept whatever she feels comfortable giving.

We are not asking for (or expecting) money from our families.  Like you we are 30 and financially secure.  I assume that if our families want to help out financially, they will gift us cash at their discretion.

Post # 5
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389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

You should definitely bring it up to her – in my opinion she wouldn’t have asked if you wanted it if she didn’t want to give it. So I’d say something like “the other day when you asked if we wanted any money for the wedding, I didn’t mean to offend you with my response. If there is something you would like to help with for the wedding, that would be wonderful.” And then let her take it from there.

Post # 7
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5183 posts
Bee Keeper

@NJmeetsBX:  Maybe I did misunderstand, why exactly did you respond like that now? 

Post # 10
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1723 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@babymakes3:  Agreed

 

Im sure she didnt mean to offend you… she wants to help out and figured she can pitch in a few bucks. cmon, everyone is always complaining about money anyway- She probably figured you guys would be happy with cash help rather then anything else

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would have Fiance talk with her. He could say that you were taken by surprise by her question and sound her out on whether it was an offer or if she was just asking to see if she was expected to contribute.

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