FMIL asking for dress advice for wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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48 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Do you live in the same city? Will you see each other before the wedding? Maybe offer to go to a few stores with her to try on dresses. She obviously wants your input. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 3
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533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I like the dress more than the blouse/ skirt combo. But I agree that if you are in town you should go shopping together. That would be a great bonding activity. ๐Ÿ˜Š My Future Mother-In-Law sends me pics too (she is out of town) and we actually have a group text with us and my mom. They are trying to coordinate. 

Post # 4
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538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I love the second outfit on her! 

Below are what my mothers wore. Dark purple is my mom, loved her dress! The one in the red is my Mother-In-Law, and I could have stabbed her for wearing a dress the same color as my bridesmaids! Oh it still makes my blood boil looking at this picture. In the lavender is my dad’s ex wife (ex step mom) who helped raise me since I was too, even after their divorce. 

Hope that helps!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

I understand being annoyed by the Mother-In-Law, trust me. But I think it is sweet that she wants your input. She clearly wants to please you. I also actually like the blue dress – how about if you find her a cool statement necklace to wear with? Nothing fancy, even some costume stuff from Target. I bet she would be so pleased and you’d score major points.

Post # 8
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3004 posts
Sugar bee

raspberrybidet :  You could offer an alternative: a summery, stylish and comfortable wrap dress. Its silhouette is basically universally flattering; the sandals work really well with the dress and their wedge heels are very manageable.

From Modli.co:

From Macy’s:

Post # 9
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1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

raspberrybidet :  Awww I think it is really sweet that your Future Mother-In-Law wants your input.  

I agree with PP that the blue dress is pretty and could definitely be jazzed up!  Go shopping together for a statement necklace or earrings to jazz it up. 

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper

raspberrybidet :  

I like the blue dress better too, and agree it could be made to look very special with the right jewellery  and shoes ( and hat  if you are in the UK) .Do help  her choose , she clearly wants you to.

And, might I just  suggest, beware of lines like “whatever makes you feel comfortable and beautiful /happy” because even  though  you mean them to be helpful and comforting , they are not either of those things to a person with body  issues who will likely NOT feel beautiful . Also, you don’t really mean ‘whatever makes you feel comfortable’ judging   by your comments (with which I completely agree btw)  on the first outfit.

She needs you to make her feel good and you can do that better by actually helping  her choose I think , not running  the risk of her  thinking you might not think her clothes  and appearance worth bothering with – which is  obviously not the case.

Post # 11
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487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

My Future Mother-In-Law is having mroe trouble finding a dress for our wedding than I did XD  She found a dress she loved but her daughter told her she couldn’t wear black and white to a wedding.  I disagreed and told her she absolutely can so I really hope she goes back for the black and white dress she loved.

My mother wore a white jacket and black skirt combo to my brothers wedding, she looked nice but was later disappointed that she didn’t look glamerous enough.  Brother said she was the prettiest girl in the room (he’s such a sweetie!)

 

I agree that if you can go shopping together it would be a really nice thing to do for both her and yourself ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

claroquesi :  I love that dress for her. She has a waist that is getting lost in her other choices, this could help define it.

OP, I agree with elderbee : , I think you should help your Future Mother-In-Law find something stylish that will help her feel great, it will be such a huge bonus for your relationship. She isn’t dressing to flatter her figure, which is normal for women after they get to a certain point in life when they’re less focused on themselves and fashion, so I’m betting she would love to see herself looking stylish. 

I would suggest you take her shopping, try some wrap dresses and cute shoes that are comfy but don’t shorten her legs. If she can’t buy something new, a statement necklace and help with shoes would be thoughtful. 

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree that it’s very sweet of her to get your opinion.  Perhaps you two could have a nice day out and go shopping, and then end it with mani/pedis or lunch or something so the whole focus isn’t on shopping, since she doesn’t really like doing it.  I’d pick somewhere with a big selection of dresses so you aren’t bouncing from store to store, if you can!

My mother wore a floor length, form fitting trumpet gown, but we had a very formal wedding and my mother is quite slim.  My Mother-In-Law wore a more A-line dress.  Both dresses were black, and both of them felt comfortable in the dress they selected.

Post # 14
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1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

wx213 :  was going to suggest this! I took my mom shopping, and would love to do the same with Future Mother-In-Law (I doubt this will happen. I don’t think she likes me very much). I honestly think it’s super sweet she is asking you. This sounds like an opportunity for a bonding experience!

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