FMIL asking for dress advice for wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 16
4863 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

raspberrybidet :   Of those two I prefer the all blue.   My mom is a similar shape and also has body image issues.  She found a nice outfit at Coldwater Creek.  

Post # 17
9208 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think the all blue dress is pretty and could be made to look more formal with the right jewelry/shoes.

Post # 18
3617 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

raspberrybidet :  I’d suggest to her to find a different hemline – either just below the knee or floor length. The mid-shin hemline isn’t doing her any favors and just makes her look short and squat. That’s a suggestion you can make without having to talk about defining the waist, etc

Post # 19
6311 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

raspberrybidet :  I definitely prefer the dress over the skirt and blouse, and actually don’t think it’s particularly unflattering. With the right accessories (perhaps a fascinator, with co-ordination clutch and shoes for example)  it could be jazzed up/dressed up and a definite contender. 

Second the advice not to be afraid to give input as she’s asked. I also think it depends on what others are wearing eg if everyone is going to be formal I would be honest and say that people will in in cocktail dresses, and make some suggestions. If she lacks confidential she is going to feel awful if she turns up and feels underdressed. 

Try to take her shopping if you can, or if not, maybe send some links. But I don’t think the blue dress is half bad. 

Post # 20
1391 posts
Bumble bee

I really like the blue dress and think a sparkly necklace, earrings, and cute clutch would look great with it!

Post # 21
1391 posts
Bumble bee

PS This is what my Mother-In-Law wore:

Post # 22
2704 posts
Sugar bee

I wore this one.  It is loose and floaty and fabulous. I didn’t feel compelled to Spanx myself into it or anything. The waist hits high enough that it doesn’t look bad if you don’t really have one anymore. I loved loved loved this dress. I was MoH in another wedding two months later and I bought it again in a different color. 

Post # 23
2465 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

I actually like both the outfits for the Mother-In-Law to wear. Both would take well to some brightening up with jewelry. A wedding is a long day for the Mother-In-Law, comfort is a must. 

Re the picture of the Mother-In-Law in the red dress, am I alone in thinking the dress would look better with a jacket?

Post # 24
166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Guess I’m the odd one out, I like the blouse/skirt better though both are lovely!

Here’s my FMIL’s dress. I went with her to pick it out, per her request.

Post # 25
1253 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2018 - The Venue, Barkisland, UK

In the UK we have a department store called Debenhams which offers a free personal shopper service. It’s really great because the ladies are lovely and pick out things you might not normally try yourself, so your Mother-In-Law might feel compelled to try something a bit more shapely on and then love it. Do you have anything like that you could take her to?

Post # 26
2795 posts
Sugar bee

My Mother-In-Law has a similar body type to yours. I took her shopping at Nordstrom and it was a very successful trip. She was thrilled with the dress I helped her pick. And she had a good number of dresses that fit and flattered her to choose from. 

Post # 27
2528 posts
Sugar bee

Both of my DILS picked the dresses I wore to their weddings, at my request. 

Post # 28
8 posts
  • Wedding: September 2016

The first outfit in the original post looks like a work outfit, the 2nd looks beautiful on her!

Post # 29
7898 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

raspberrybidet :  

I didn’t at all mean  to suggest you  were being rude or insensitive OP , I think you meant what  you said absolutely  for the best and to put her at ease .

I just wanted to  kind of warn that those kind of phrases might not work so well with a lady of her age and body type and that she just  may have feared you were fobbing her off . I know you weren’t !!!

PS bees are aabsolutely right when  they  point out how certain skirt lengths ( and shoes)  can  be very unflattering , you’ll really be able to help her there.

Post # 30
404 posts
Helper bee

I like the colour of the second dress. 

My Mother-In-Law tried on more dresses than I did.

She showed me photos and I really liked a deep red dress she tried, she looked great in but she was told by colleagues at work that you don’t wear red, so as not to upstage the bride ?! I told her that I don’t mind.

In the end she got a really nice turquoise colour dress but it was a wrap dress which I think is less flattering because it has no shape. But it popped in the pictures. 

It was funny because DH’s grandmother also consulted with me – she had a white sweather she wanted to wear but Mother-In-Law didn’t think it was appropriate and I was like “wear whatever you like and feel comfrotable in” – she wore the white sweather. 

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