Post # 1
SO My Future Mother-In-Law told me today she wants to have a private shoot 15 to 20 mins just with her, my Fiance and his sister right after cermony!!!! Yes thats right without me, she explained it’s because she doesn’t have any nice photo’s of just the three of them. I tried to explain that we only have an for photos so that guest aren’t waiting, but beside that it will OUR wedding day and we are paying for it and I don’t want to spend our first moments as husband and wife apart. I talked to her about doing it during another part of the day but she wants to capture “that special moment” because they will all be so “happy”. BUT THATS MY MOMENT!!! I WANT TO BE HAPPY AND CAPTURE MY OWN PICTURES!!!!!
Am I wrong???
Post # 3
My husband took pictures with just his family. It’s not really that big of a deal. 3-4 pictures, done.
I did the same thing with my family. I don’t see what’s so hurtful about it?
Post # 4
Um, she’s not having a “private shoot” with your wedding photog on your dime. She gets one – two photos like that, and that’s it. If she wants nice photos of the three of them she can pay for her own session like everybody else.
Post # 5
Let her do it after you and your Fiance take all your couple-y pictures. Leave it till the end of the hour and get everything else done first. Then, use that time to take solo pics with your family and friends. It is nice to have separate shots. Just arrange beforehand with the photographer how much time or pictures to take for your Future Mother-In-Law, seeing as how you are paying for it.
Post # 6
We have photos schedule of Fiance with just his family, just mom, just dad, each sibling etc but it will probably only take a few minutes. Tell her she can do it before the ceremony.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club
no! you’re not wrong.
I’m surprised at her request. if she wants nice photos of her son and daughter, she can pay for a photographer to do so. Your wedding is not the time for that.
Sorry Future Mother-In-Law, but that’s just not going to happen.
Post # 8
@misslillypad: Do you have a second shooter? If so, i would suggest that perhaps some of those pictures could be taken pre-cermony at someone’s house.
But after the ceremony?
I’m pretty laid back about this (we asked our photographer to get family shots of my SIL’s family, including my Mother-In-Law, with AND without us, because what the hell, the photographer is there, all of them are there, so why not?) BUT 20 minutes is a long time for your photographer to wander off with half of the new couple.
Compromise a bit — let her have a picture with just her kids if it will make her happy**–but a full on multi-pose 20 minute session? No way, Jose. On her time, and her dime but not on your wedding day.
**no one says you ever have to buy a copy, or put it in an album, but it is there if she wants to lay out the cash for it.
Post # 9
@misslillypad: I agree with what others have said. It’s smart to take family photos before the ceremony. We had a whole range of immediate family portraits including each of us alone with our parents, siblings, etc. I love the photo of my husband and his parents!
Post # 10
I don’t mind separate shots, my issue is that she want the Frist 20 mins right after the ceremony to walk around the gardens and have photos with just those three. Leaving everyone else waiting for them to come back Including me
Post # 11
Compromise and tell her she can have it after you guys take your “vital” shots.
Post # 12
I’d tell her she can do photos before the ceremony, but not after.
I don’t see anything wrong with a few photos of just her and her kids, but those should be done at the same time as your formal family photos, not off in some private shoot.
Post # 13
Agree with pp, she wants 20 minutes, let her do it before the ceremony or she can book her own session, they can even wear the same clothes. Just hog your Fiance and don’t let her take him lol
Post # 14
I could understand asking for 2-3 pictures, but a 20min shoot is ridiculous. Could she take pictures with your Fiance and his sister right before the ceremony? That way she gets her pictures but it doesn’t cut into the time you and your Fiance have right after being married.
Post # 15
I wouldn’t want Fiance gone for 20 minutes after the ceremony. Tell her she gets a few minutes for those shots, just like every other wedding. If she wants, she can hire her family photographer on her own dime.
Post # 16
@misslillypad: Oh hell no. She’s not taking your glory at all. If she wants those specific shots, she’s going to get them when it’s at a more appropriate time. Before the ceremony.
Could you do all of your wedding pictures before the ceremony, and then have the couple only shots after the ceremony? (evil, I know- but tell her it’s to maximize time you can spend with guests)
It’s not her wedding, it’s your wedding. Good lord, that woman…