Post # 1
I am kinda worried that my Future Mother-In-Law will want to come to my bachelorette party, FI’s parent’s party pretty hard. The thing is I really want it to just be my girls – Have you had to handle this or have any suggestions?
Post # 4
tell whoever is organizing it not to invite her
Post # 5
I’m worried about this too. I’m not close to my bachelorette party yet, but it has crossed my mind.
Post # 6
Yeah that would be way weird, IMO, I also agree to just have her not sent an invite. It should be however you want it to be, so if that’s just your girls then you should have that!
Post # 7
I don’t think it’s weird, but I understand just wanting your close friends there. Don’t bring it up to her. If she mentions it, tell her it’s just your BMs.
Post # 8
As the MOB, I’ve been told I’ll be at the Bach party. Kinda weirded me out at first even though we’re really close, that is a time for her and her friends. However, she’s insistent upon me & two of my closest friends, plus it’s a co-ed bach party with all her friends that I’m close to. Will be loads of fun, but yes, weird!
If you don’t want you Future Mother-In-Law there, make sure she doesn’t get an invite!
Post # 9
@EleanorRigby: I agree. I think it’s kind of awesome, but I’m sure she’d understand that you just wanted your girls.
Post # 10
If you don’t want her there then tell whoever is organizing it to not invite her.
I personally will be including my mom, my Future Mother-In-Law as well as possibly our grandmothers into my bachelorette party however, we’ll probably be going to a Broadway show and then out for a nice dinner/drinks. I’m not into male strippers or getting unnecessarily hammered.
Post # 11
Is your mom invited or going? It’s ok to say no. If it’s like mine there will be a small part of talking about your Fiance inappropriate to say in front of your Future Mother-In-Law.
Post # 12
What I’ve thought about doing is having a nice dinner for friends/mom/mother-in-law & then going out with friends after.
Although, obviously I’M not planning my bachelorette party. 🙂
Post # 13
I don’t even know if we’ll have one since most of our wedding party is out of town and won’t arrive until the week of the wedding.
If we do, I can’t imagine her wanting to attend. Very awkward! I don’t even want MY mom at the bachelorette!
Post # 14
My sister invited herself to my neice’s, and they didn’t know what to do about it, so let her go. They ended up being uncomfortable with her there, and let her take care of the few who over-imbibed and got sick. 😛
I didn’t go to either one of my daughter’s and wouldn’t have considered it. I had my time and they deserved theirs.
If she wants to come, maybe early dinner with her included but private time for the girls afterwards?
Post # 15
I originally thought about inviting my mom, aunts, Future Mother-In-Law, some of her fam etc but …. that’s what bridal showers are for. For my bach party, I just want it to be me and my girls… the ones who are my best friends and I won’t feel awkward at all being around or talking about certain things. I’m not saying we are having strippers or anything b/c I don’t even want that but I want to be able to just have a fun “girls night” and not worry about what other people think 🙂
Post # 16
I live in England and the tradition here is to invite all female guests to the wedding, which I always thought was strange. Where I come from (Scandinavia) it’s a night for just you and the girls, not for your parents, aunites of mother in law!