Post # 1
Okay, okay, okay. I seriously have read a million and one threads like this and I know a lot of people will tell me she is a grown woman and can wear whatever she wants. I hear you. Fine. But I am still extremely frustrated and disappointed. Of alllll the colours that exist in the world, why did she have to go and pick CORAL PINK!???? It’s not like I have my BMs wearing purple and she chose another shade, or something like that. She bought a coral pink dress when my BMs are wearing coral pink dresses.
I never really thought this could happen to me… I thought this was something you just read about in other people posts on the Bee.
Obviously there’s nothing I can do, she’s already bought the dress. Just needed to vent. I feel better already.
Post # 3
Go easy on her.
A co-worker and I went to a friend’s wedding (friend was also a co-worker) and we laughed at each other when we both arrived because we were wearing the same color and similar style dress. The color was a reddish, bright pink.
Then the bridal party entered and we looked at each other in shame. We both matched the bridesmaids PERFECTLY in color and, again, similar style dresses.
Some of the BM’s shot us nasty looks as if “how dare they?!”
A. We didn’t mean it
B. Even if we did……so what….it’s clear we’re not bridesmaids and who cares if someone assumes we are?
Post # 4
Did she know what color the BMs were wearing?
Don’t stress about it, it isn’t worth it. My BMs were in Navy blue and my mom ended up picking a navy blue dress because that is what looked best on her. No one mistook her for a BM and it didn’t look strange at all.
Post # 5
Er.. so? July is a summer month and pink is a summer color.
I don’t think anyone is going to notice but you. Everyone is going to know who your bridesmaids are because they’ll be standing with you, so there will be no confusion.
Post # 6
Maybe she thought she was supporting your vision and thought you’d like her matching your colors…..??? or she doesn’t know it’s a faux paus?
Its a pretty distinctive color. I really don’t have any advice, it’s just odd.
Post # 7
My BMs are wearing black. My mother is also choosing to wear black and my FMIL is thinking about it too. I don’t really care.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t stress about it. My Mom and my MIL actually shopped for colors that would match. My MIL’s dress matched my bridesmaids almost perfectly and it actually looked really good in pictures. I almost would rather them be in the same color than some off the wall color that would not compliment my wedding colors in pictures.
Post # 9
@mousepeach: That’s actually pretty funny. I would rather one of my guests showed up in the same colour, actually. Even two. lol
@KatNYC2011: Yes, since her daughter is a BM. Sigh. I wouldn’t mind it if it weren’t such a bright, distinctive colour, actually. I’d rather she wore cream, or even white for that matter.
@Hyperventilate: I know, I know. Everyone will know she’s the MOG and not a BM, but I just wish she’d asked my thoughts before getting a dress so I could have prevented this. I would have been okay with any. other. colour. Or even another shade of pink.
@PinkPinstripes: Yes, it is odd. Thank you for acknowledging that. 🙂
Post # 10
She’s your FMIL. The mother of your fiance. She can wear what she wants. She won’t be standing up there with y’all so no one will be thinking about what color she’s wearing.
My colors are blush pink and white, my FMIL will be wearing a navy dress. It doesn’t match, but I didn’t blink one eye when I found out what color she’s wearing. I see it as her baby is getting married, she can wear what she wants.
I guess I just don’t understand the drama of it all because I’m pretty laid back and a wedding is one day and you don’t want to start your marriage off stressed out about what someone is going to wear.
I also laughed a little when I read “I never really thought this could happen to me…” Seriously? If that’s the worst of your worries, then you’re going to be just fine!!
Just relax and enjoy.
Post # 11
well, that color is very “in” at the moment – I’m headed to a wedding this weekend and purcahsed a coral pink dress – so maybe there will be other guests in the same color, which would be a good thing in my mind since she won’t stand out as much.
Post # 12
There are exactly eleventybillion shades of “Coral Pink”
Pretty much every shade of pink can fall under “coral”, so.. just putting that out there.
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
Whooooo caaaaaaares what color dress guests wear?! Other than white, I really think it’s an over reaction. Better for the wedding party to look cohesive together in group photos than to clash horribly.
Seriously had no idea this was considered a faux pas by anyone. My FMIL purposefully looked for a blue dress to go with my bridesmaids, as well as her husband (both fathers are renting tuxes like the groomsmen), and I helped her look for one. Seriously, who cares!!!
Post # 14
@NLbride: Hmmm. Maybe you could just say something like, “Oh. You do know that’s the same color dress as the bridesmaids don’t you? Are you going to feel comfortable with that?”
If she says yes, then drop it.
Post # 15
@adoc86: Yea, I would be totally fine with that. My mom is wearing navy.
@NavyBride16: You’re right. That’s the up side. Thanks! 🙂
@dreamer1288: I was being a bit facetious with the part about how I can’t believe this is happening to me. Obviously doesn’t translate super well over the internet.
@cooperlove: This is true. 🙂
@Hyperventilate: Eleventy billion, huh? That’s a lot.
@aggie2010: This is true. At least she won’t clash. Unless she chose a horrible shade… lol.
Post # 16
@Zhabeego: That would probably work – but I am 99.9% sure she knows since her daughter is a BM. I am not going to say anything. It doesn’t bother me enough to say something. It just doesn’t match the picture I had in my head. My own mother is wearing navy, so I guess I had this picture of FMIL wearing similar. And coral is not similar to navy. lol