(Closed) FMIL bought a dress in the same colour as BMs! WHAT!??? (vent)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
644 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Go easy on her.

A co-worker and I went to a friend’s wedding (friend was also a co-worker) and we laughed at each other when we both arrived because we were wearing the same color and similar style dress.  The color was a reddish, bright pink.

Then the bridal party entered and we looked at each other in shame.  We both matched the bridesmaids PERFECTLY in color and, again, similar style dresses.

Some of the BM’s shot us nasty looks as if “how dare they?!”

A.  We didn’t mean it

B.  Even if we did……so what….it’s clear we’re not bridesmaids and who cares if someone assumes we are? 

Post # 4
8734 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Did she know what color the BMs were wearing?


Don’t stress about it, it isn’t worth it. My BMs were in Navy blue and my mom ended up picking a navy blue dress because that is what looked best on her. No one mistook her for a Bridesmaid or Best Man and it didn’t look strange at all.

Post # 5
9071 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Er.. so? July is a summer month and pink is a summer color.

I don’t think anyone is going to notice but you. Everyone is going to know who your bridesmaids are because they’ll be standing with you, so there will be no confusion.

Post # 6
2203 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Maybe she thought she was supporting your vision and thought you’d like her matching your colors…..??? or she doesn’t know it’s a faux paus?

Its a pretty distinctive color. I really don’t have any advice, it’s just odd.

Post # 7
4494 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My BMs are wearing black. My mother is also choosing to wear black and my Future Mother-In-Law is thinking about it too. I don’t really care.

Post # 8
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I wouldn’t stress about it.  My Mom and my Mother-In-Law actually shopped for colors that would match.  My MIL’s dress matched my bridesmaids almost perfectly and it actually looked really good in pictures.  I almost would rather them be in the same color than some off the wall color that would not compliment my wedding colors in pictures.

Post # 10
468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

She’s your Future Mother-In-Law. The mother of your fiance. She can wear what she wants. She won’t be standing up there with y’all so no one will be thinking about what color she’s wearing.

My colors are blush pink and white, my Future Mother-In-Law will be wearing a navy dress. It doesn’t match, but I didn’t blink one eye when I found out what color she’s wearing. I see it as her baby is getting married, she can wear what she wants.

I guess I just don’t understand the drama of it all because I’m pretty laid back and a wedding is one day and you don’t want to start your marriage off stressed out about what someone is going to wear.

I also laughed a little when I read “I never really thought this could happen to me…” Seriously? If that’s the worst of your worries, then you’re going to be just fine!! 

Just relax and enjoy. 

Post # 11
1594 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

well, that color is very “in” at the moment – I’m headed to a wedding this weekend and purcahsed a coral pink dress – so maybe there will be other guests in the same color, which would be a good thing in my mind since she won’t stand out as much.



Post # 12
9071 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

There are exactly eleventybillion shades of “Coral Pink”

Pretty much every shade of pink can fall under “coral”, so.. just putting that out there.

Post # 13
1812 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

Whooooo caaaaaaares what color dress guests wear?! Other than white, I really think it’s an over reaction. Better for the wedding party to look cohesive together in group photos than to clash horribly.

Seriously had no idea this was considered a faux pas by anyone. My Future Mother-In-Law purposefully looked for a blue dress to go with my bridesmaids, as well as her husband (both fathers are renting tuxes like the groomsmen), and I helped her look for one. Seriously, who cares!!!

Post # 14
2597 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@NLbride:  Hmmm.  Maybe you could just say something like, “Oh.  You do know that’s the same color dress as the bridesmaids don’t you?  Are you going to feel comfortable with that?” 

If she says yes, then drop it.

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